The Season of Love
This time of year is often referred to as the Season of Love but should we not live in that season all of the time? This also begs the question, “What is love?” that is what we will discuss here.
The love to which I am referring is of the unconditional variety, the kind that gives without stipulations or judgments. It creates the binding force of love; a love driven by free, joyous acceptance of yourself and all around you. This love does NOT come from a place of need, want, or manipulation. This love, when you move in harmony with it, gives you the ability to let others grow at their own rate, to reach out to another without losing your center. You begin to feel that sense of wholeness and balance that you are looking for. You lose the desire to judge others by YOUR standards and you are able to see all things as your “next best thing”. This type of love allows you to consider others as well as to be gentle with our expectations of ourselves. We find that we can empathize with the challenges and the joys of others. This love is our link between our intellectual self and our spiritual self.
Unconditional love is both a way of life; a state of being and a conscious aware decision. When we choose to engage our will (a 3rd chakra issue) to direct the love of our 4th chakra to all of those around us, we find a great sense of inner peace and well being suffuses us and radiates out to all with whom we come into contact.
We accomplish this true, pure, unconditional love when our ability to take responsibility for those actions that are truly ours becomes firmly established within us. When we can stop having the need to live our lives by committee and can follow our hearts truth without guilt or fear; when we can express love of our selves and humanity without manipulation or require others to change in order to become worthy of it; when you do not feel the need to be in control of others, or it is no longer important that truth is subjugated to YOUR idea of what YOU feel it should be. When we are able to give and receive this unconditional love that is vital to our growth and evolvement, our actions become based on the premise that all people are deserving of love. We are at a level where we can forgive others as well as ourselves easily thus releasing emotional pain as just a part of day to day life and not hold it as something to be nurtured. Holding hurts and grievances benefits no one, least of all ourselves. Love heals, holding hurt destroys.
Let’s face it, you can’t really know anyone but yourself, so by taking everything and everyone (especially ourselves) less seriously, you can be yourself without letting another take your power. You are also able to see the difference in controlling yourself and NOT controlling others.
Balance means that you can temper your lower chakras pull with love and begin seeing change in wonderful ways. You know you are in balance when you no longer feel those pulls from your lower chakras and realize that you do, indeed, create your own reality and you can influence others.
The goal of unconditional love is to first find an unconditional love for your self that will spill over to others, then be able to exercise tolerance and balance within your body, mind, spirit, to realize the Devine Paradox that something that seems small is, in reality very large and the thing that seems very large is actually very small, and to then embrace the ability to allow things to just be what they are.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
©Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Saturday, December 18, 2010
ON GROWING SLEEP
Getting to sleep has become a large problem in our society. We are too busy fighting with the weeds of our day to slow down and plant the proper seeds for relaxation in our daily garden of “doing things” and then wonder why sleep eludes us. Sleep is what our body uses as our time for healing and restoration.
We should be sleeping for about 1/3rd of our lives. Deep, good quality sleep allows our natural pharmacopeia to release the chemicals inherent in us that keep us operating at peak efficiency. Without the proper amount and types of sleep, we become fuzzy brained, scattered, tired and ill. Now some of you would argue that there are pills to help with getting to sleep, but, sleep should be blissful, silent and deep enough for a dream state to be invoked. In our search for this type of sleep we often sabotage our efforts without realizing it.
The most frequent reasons the dream state is not reached are 1) tranquilizers, 2) sleeping pills, and 3) alcohol.
Consider the fact that our bodies are already equipped with all the appropriate chemicals and in the proper dosages for each person to function as they should in this (and all areas of life), why mess with that? Let us look at some lifestyle changes that we can cultivate in order to access our natural ability to sleep.
Seed one) Have a light supper 2 to 3 hours before you go to bed. Have a set bed time and stick to it. Give yourself at LEAST 30 min. quiet time before bed. Stop doing what ever you were doing and turn off everything noisy. Lower the lights, if you wear glasses, take them off and let go of your day and sink into the quiet. Let the thoughts that bedevil you stay just long enough for you to say "listening" 3 times (a Buddhist thingy) after you speak, let go of the thought. If it is a "to do thing", write it down on paper so your mind can let it go. Next, start with ether your head or feet (different for different folks-try both to see where you land) and tense up all the muscles in what ever area your working with, let them relax and move to the next group. For instance; feet; tense, relax move. Calves; tense, relax, move. Thighs and so on working your way up your body (or down as your case may be), you get the picture. When you get to your head do your face, jaws, scalp, anything you can to stretch the muscles and relax them. Feel the difference in your tension level, it will be lower and relaxation will be in your reach. You can do this as many times as you wish.
Seed two) This one I learned from a friend of mine, Geo Clark and he calls it pyramid breathing; focus all attention on your breathing, inhale, hold 1, exhale. Inhale, hold 2, and exhale. And so on, do this all the way to 10 then come back down to 1. Somewhere in there you will fall asleep. Let me know how you manage. Another breathing technique is inhale deeply through the nose and then exhale, through the nose in little puffs like blowing out a candle. Do this about 20 reps as a relaxation aid.
Seed three) Again quiet the room and lower the lights. If you have you have quiet relaxing music or guided meditation on CD you may wish to use them to help you become quiet. An aroma therapy candle (burned in a safe dish) or an essential oil or herbal relaxation aromas such as saffron or lavender can aid in easing you into a more relaxed state. Warm some milk with a touch of saffron or nutmeg, poppy seed or, if you prefer 1 Tablespoon gotacola in 1 cup water for tea.
Seed four) understand that different people require different amounts of sleep so find out what is best for you and make it part of your healthy, daily lifestyle. Mix and match the different ideas and techniques to find out your best formula and know that sometimes it will change. Don’t stress over it, just let it happen as you practice the suggestions I have laid out here (and there are others out there just a little research will bring them to light) and you will find that your sleep garden will grow better results in your waking life and your efforts will bloom brightly.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
©Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved
Getting to sleep has become a large problem in our society. We are too busy fighting with the weeds of our day to slow down and plant the proper seeds for relaxation in our daily garden of “doing things” and then wonder why sleep eludes us. Sleep is what our body uses as our time for healing and restoration.
We should be sleeping for about 1/3rd of our lives. Deep, good quality sleep allows our natural pharmacopeia to release the chemicals inherent in us that keep us operating at peak efficiency. Without the proper amount and types of sleep, we become fuzzy brained, scattered, tired and ill. Now some of you would argue that there are pills to help with getting to sleep, but, sleep should be blissful, silent and deep enough for a dream state to be invoked. In our search for this type of sleep we often sabotage our efforts without realizing it.
The most frequent reasons the dream state is not reached are 1) tranquilizers, 2) sleeping pills, and 3) alcohol.
Consider the fact that our bodies are already equipped with all the appropriate chemicals and in the proper dosages for each person to function as they should in this (and all areas of life), why mess with that? Let us look at some lifestyle changes that we can cultivate in order to access our natural ability to sleep.
Seed one) Have a light supper 2 to 3 hours before you go to bed. Have a set bed time and stick to it. Give yourself at LEAST 30 min. quiet time before bed. Stop doing what ever you were doing and turn off everything noisy. Lower the lights, if you wear glasses, take them off and let go of your day and sink into the quiet. Let the thoughts that bedevil you stay just long enough for you to say "listening" 3 times (a Buddhist thingy) after you speak, let go of the thought. If it is a "to do thing", write it down on paper so your mind can let it go. Next, start with ether your head or feet (different for different folks-try both to see where you land) and tense up all the muscles in what ever area your working with, let them relax and move to the next group. For instance; feet; tense, relax move. Calves; tense, relax, move. Thighs and so on working your way up your body (or down as your case may be), you get the picture. When you get to your head do your face, jaws, scalp, anything you can to stretch the muscles and relax them. Feel the difference in your tension level, it will be lower and relaxation will be in your reach. You can do this as many times as you wish.
Seed two) This one I learned from a friend of mine, Geo Clark and he calls it pyramid breathing; focus all attention on your breathing, inhale, hold 1, exhale. Inhale, hold 2, and exhale. And so on, do this all the way to 10 then come back down to 1. Somewhere in there you will fall asleep. Let me know how you manage. Another breathing technique is inhale deeply through the nose and then exhale, through the nose in little puffs like blowing out a candle. Do this about 20 reps as a relaxation aid.
Seed three) Again quiet the room and lower the lights. If you have you have quiet relaxing music or guided meditation on CD you may wish to use them to help you become quiet. An aroma therapy candle (burned in a safe dish) or an essential oil or herbal relaxation aromas such as saffron or lavender can aid in easing you into a more relaxed state. Warm some milk with a touch of saffron or nutmeg, poppy seed or, if you prefer 1 Tablespoon gotacola in 1 cup water for tea.
Seed four) understand that different people require different amounts of sleep so find out what is best for you and make it part of your healthy, daily lifestyle. Mix and match the different ideas and techniques to find out your best formula and know that sometimes it will change. Don’t stress over it, just let it happen as you practice the suggestions I have laid out here (and there are others out there just a little research will bring them to light) and you will find that your sleep garden will grow better results in your waking life and your efforts will bloom brightly.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
©Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved
Sunday, December 12, 2010
GETTING RID OF “STUFF” THAT WE DON’T NEED ANY MORE
GETTING RID OF “STUFF” THAT WE DON’T NEED ANY MORE
©Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
“Childhood stuff needed to happen because it did. So are you going to use it as an excuse to fail or rewrite your memes (old ideas in your head that you don’t need any more) to elevate yourself to be a better you?” Dr. Wayne Dyer
I ask myself this question every time I feel unsure of which way I need to move because an old tape keeps playing in my head. Just because someone taught us something when we were little does not mean that it still ‘fits’ now or that it was true in the first place. Just as we grow into and out of our clothing we grow into and out of ideas, thought processes and feelings. Here is the GREAT news for us…it is OK for that to happen. Actually, it is desirable for thoughts to grow and change as we grow and change.
Being stuck in our past is never a good thing. Forward movement must take place for us to evolve. If we don’t evolve we stagnate and that causes pain, illness and frustration.
For those of you who are realizing that this is something you need to work on I strongly recommend the book “Virus of the Mind, the New Science of the Meme” by Richard Brodie. It will define this new thought process in a way that will make the transition clearer and therefore easier to navigate.
Bright Blessings and smooth sailing, Chessie
©Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
“Childhood stuff needed to happen because it did. So are you going to use it as an excuse to fail or rewrite your memes (old ideas in your head that you don’t need any more) to elevate yourself to be a better you?” Dr. Wayne Dyer
I ask myself this question every time I feel unsure of which way I need to move because an old tape keeps playing in my head. Just because someone taught us something when we were little does not mean that it still ‘fits’ now or that it was true in the first place. Just as we grow into and out of our clothing we grow into and out of ideas, thought processes and feelings. Here is the GREAT news for us…it is OK for that to happen. Actually, it is desirable for thoughts to grow and change as we grow and change.
Being stuck in our past is never a good thing. Forward movement must take place for us to evolve. If we don’t evolve we stagnate and that causes pain, illness and frustration.
For those of you who are realizing that this is something you need to work on I strongly recommend the book “Virus of the Mind, the New Science of the Meme” by Richard Brodie. It will define this new thought process in a way that will make the transition clearer and therefore easier to navigate.
Bright Blessings and smooth sailing, Chessie
Sunday, December 5, 2010
HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION?
HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION?
In any given situation you have choices. You can choose to be the victim of the situation or you can choose to rise above it and make it a learning and growing experience for your self. Self pity stops you cold, so decide that the situation is your next best thing. Look for the positive aspects of it and act on them.
I challenge you to truly and objectively look at your situation. Where and what are the positive aspects of it? What, of the negative aspects can you turn into positive ones? How can you now benefit from this new view point? If you look at a seemingly “bad” situation as your “next best thing” you will find the “good” in it for you.
Just as slow motion and stop action still photography gives you and opportunity to reevaluate what you thought you saw, slowing down and honestly analyze your situation. This reexamining will reveal secrets and clues within the situation that you would otherwise miss. This allows you the opportunity to see the true good in your situation, to change your perception of it and turn it toward your benefit; to make it your next best thing.
So when you feel that your situation is beyond redemption, slow down, reexamine and search out those hidden positives and turn a negative into your next best thing and grow.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
© 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved
In any given situation you have choices. You can choose to be the victim of the situation or you can choose to rise above it and make it a learning and growing experience for your self. Self pity stops you cold, so decide that the situation is your next best thing. Look for the positive aspects of it and act on them.
I challenge you to truly and objectively look at your situation. Where and what are the positive aspects of it? What, of the negative aspects can you turn into positive ones? How can you now benefit from this new view point? If you look at a seemingly “bad” situation as your “next best thing” you will find the “good” in it for you.
Just as slow motion and stop action still photography gives you and opportunity to reevaluate what you thought you saw, slowing down and honestly analyze your situation. This reexamining will reveal secrets and clues within the situation that you would otherwise miss. This allows you the opportunity to see the true good in your situation, to change your perception of it and turn it toward your benefit; to make it your next best thing.
So when you feel that your situation is beyond redemption, slow down, reexamine and search out those hidden positives and turn a negative into your next best thing and grow.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
© 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved
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