WHERE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHERE YOU ARE NOW?
© Chessie Roberts2010, all rights reserved
When I was a teenager the trend of the day for the girls was to wash and roll your hair in the morning and to keep the rollers in until time for your ‘special event’ of the day. Your ‘event could be a date, shopping with your friends or going out to dinner with the family, anything would do for the main happening for the day. My Mother and I would argue horribly over this particular teenage tradition. One day I was reading a newspaper column by Ann Landers where she asked a (what was for me) life changing question.
“Where are you going that is more important than where you are now?”
I was recently reminded of this question when I was talking to a friend of mine. He was lamenting the fact that he had not had a good time at a play that he had attended. I asked what had happened to keep him from enjoying the play and he told me that the lights had been turned down and he could not read the book he wanted to read. I would have thought he would have been watching the play that he had paid to attend rather than reading a book. Who does that I asked myself?
I soon discovered that even on a camping trips people are playing video games, texting (and being annoyed by incoming texts), talking on cell phones and being upset by weak signals to their appliances. Even getting to the woods, children must now be entertained with movies rather than paying attention to what is outside the car window. My thought is why go camping if you are going to stay tethered?
As I work with people in the Evolution of Self program, I find that many people are very unhappy because they are trying to be in more places than where they physically are. I can see that there are times when this is required but not every minute of the day. (I also learned that our minds do not actually multi-task, they just do more than one thing poorly.)
Start looking at where you are now, what you are supposed to be doing now and concentrate on that, be in that ‘now’. Don’t worry about where you will need to be in the next hour or day and do your best where you are now. Begin asking yourself “Where is more important than where I am right now?” Make your ‘now’ as important as your ‘later’ so that you stay focused. Then, when you finish that time frame move on to the next.
Anticipation is a good thing but not to the detriment of you being in your ‘now’. Learn to enjoy the ‘now’ no matter where or what it is and you will find that your days go by better and your enjoyment of life increases.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Sunday, April 18, 2010
GETTING RID OF “STUFF” THAT WE DON’T NEED ANY MORE
GETTING RID OF “STUFF” THAT WE DON’T NEED ANY MORE
©Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
“Childhood stuff needed to happen because it did. So are you going to use it as an excuse to fail or rewrite your memes (old ideas in your head that you don’t need any more) to elevate yourself to be a better you?” Dr. Wayne Dyer
I ask myself this question every time I feel unsure of which way I need to move because an old tape keeps playing in my head. Just because someone taught us something when we were little does not mean that it still ‘fits’ now or that it was true in the first place. Just as we grow into and out of our clothing we grow into and out of ideas, thought processes and feelings. Here is the GREAT news for us…it is OK for that to happen. Actually, it is desirable for thoughts to grow as we grow.
Being stuck in our past is never a good thing. Forward movement must take place for us to evolve. If we don’t evolve we stagnate and that causes pain, illness and frustration.
For those of you who are realizing that this is something you need to work on I strongly recommend the book “Virus of the Mind, the New Science of the Meme” by Richard Brodie. It will define this new thought process in a way that will make the transition clearer and therefore easier to navigate.
Bright Blessings and smooth sailing, Chessie
©Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
“Childhood stuff needed to happen because it did. So are you going to use it as an excuse to fail or rewrite your memes (old ideas in your head that you don’t need any more) to elevate yourself to be a better you?” Dr. Wayne Dyer
I ask myself this question every time I feel unsure of which way I need to move because an old tape keeps playing in my head. Just because someone taught us something when we were little does not mean that it still ‘fits’ now or that it was true in the first place. Just as we grow into and out of our clothing we grow into and out of ideas, thought processes and feelings. Here is the GREAT news for us…it is OK for that to happen. Actually, it is desirable for thoughts to grow as we grow.
Being stuck in our past is never a good thing. Forward movement must take place for us to evolve. If we don’t evolve we stagnate and that causes pain, illness and frustration.
For those of you who are realizing that this is something you need to work on I strongly recommend the book “Virus of the Mind, the New Science of the Meme” by Richard Brodie. It will define this new thought process in a way that will make the transition clearer and therefore easier to navigate.
Bright Blessings and smooth sailing, Chessie
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
THE TWO MOST POWERFUL WORDS
THE TWO MOST POWERFUL WORDS IN THE LANGUAGE
©Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved
Do you find yourself becoming argumentative and defensive over the slightest thing? Does it seem to you that others are not getting with your program? Could it be that you are attempting to exercise control over something you can’t or should not be controlling?
If these issues are in your life, you need to learn about the two most powerful words in any language, “Let go.” I f you will ask yourself a few questions you will see very quickly how and where to use these wonderful words.
When you are pressing a point ask if the point is truly important. Will it be important in ten minutes? How about one month? A Year? If the subject is so trivial as to be lost in the next ten minutes, why waste time, energy, and frustration on it in the first place? Let it go. If in a months time the point is not something worth remembering, then why pursue it? See how that works?
Secondly ask yourself why it is important to you to be the ‘winner’ of this particular argument/difference of opinion? Is the subject of the argument important enough to agree to disagree? If not, it is not important enough to argue about in the first place. Remember that everyone has an opinion and rarely are two just alike and that is ok but to have to be correct all of the time about everything (no matter how trivial) sais that there deeper issues of control that need to occupying you time.
As you learn how to let go of the small things and be OK with that, the larger things will be easier to let go of as well. Letting go will de-clutter your life and make the more important things (those truly important) clearer so that you can take care of them in a positive and balanced way.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
©Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved
Do you find yourself becoming argumentative and defensive over the slightest thing? Does it seem to you that others are not getting with your program? Could it be that you are attempting to exercise control over something you can’t or should not be controlling?
If these issues are in your life, you need to learn about the two most powerful words in any language, “Let go.” I f you will ask yourself a few questions you will see very quickly how and where to use these wonderful words.
When you are pressing a point ask if the point is truly important. Will it be important in ten minutes? How about one month? A Year? If the subject is so trivial as to be lost in the next ten minutes, why waste time, energy, and frustration on it in the first place? Let it go. If in a months time the point is not something worth remembering, then why pursue it? See how that works?
Secondly ask yourself why it is important to you to be the ‘winner’ of this particular argument/difference of opinion? Is the subject of the argument important enough to agree to disagree? If not, it is not important enough to argue about in the first place. Remember that everyone has an opinion and rarely are two just alike and that is ok but to have to be correct all of the time about everything (no matter how trivial) sais that there deeper issues of control that need to occupying you time.
As you learn how to let go of the small things and be OK with that, the larger things will be easier to let go of as well. Letting go will de-clutter your life and make the more important things (those truly important) clearer so that you can take care of them in a positive and balanced way.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
WHEN YOU CHANGE WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT
WHEN YOU CHANGE WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT
WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT CHANGES
© Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
Do you find yourself having conversations with your ‘self’ about what you should have done or said in a given circumstance? How about what you think SHOULD have happened or how your SHOULD have reacted to fill in the blank?
When we talk to ourselves we call it thinking but what we are really doing is actually talking to “self” about something that is bothering us. It can be anything; a disturbing incident, an angry encounter, a close call. You notice that I didn’t list anything ‘good’ here. That is because, as people, we don’t usually rehash the good, just the bad. The worse the trauma, the more we go through it. The reason for this is that is how we handled this type of thing when we were children. A little person will tell you the same tale of trauma until you feel that you can’t stand to hear it again but, that is how they ‘talk themselves down’
As we mature we learn to keep most of these things to our selves but they do have a tendency to pop out somewhere else if we are not vigilant. One of the ways; as we mature into more positive people, we can handle this process is to change what we are thinking about. We do this by learning proper self talk. I.e. writing a better script in our heads.
The way to start the re-write is to go for the positive in all of your daily encounters. Look at what ever is going on (in ANY situation) and ask your self, “What makes this situation positive?” (I keep that sign hanging right by my computer so that I don’t forget). Next, ask your self “What are my assets?” These two questions will change the focus of your thoughts to a more positive slant.
The other thing that you can do to get your thoughts moving in the positive direction is to keep you a journal with you at all times (just until you get used to thinking this way). Every time you come up with a less than desirable thought, write it down. If you can change it to a positive statement at the time go, ahead and do it, if not, wait until you have some quiet time and refer back to your notes. Then rewrite the statement in the proper positive language. EXAMPLE: “That stupid jerk nearly ran me off the road! I wonder where he got his drivers license, Hasbro.” CORRECTION; “I am so glad he missed me, I hope he gets where he is going safely.”
It might sound a bit corny but it really does work. As you begin to change your inner vocabulary, your thoughts will turn toward a more positive flow. This flow will, in turn change what occupies your mind. As that focus changes you will find that your vibrations rise and, consequently, your life will flow better as well because, when you change what you think about, what you think about changes.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT CHANGES
© Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
Do you find yourself having conversations with your ‘self’ about what you should have done or said in a given circumstance? How about what you think SHOULD have happened or how your SHOULD have reacted to fill in the blank?
When we talk to ourselves we call it thinking but what we are really doing is actually talking to “self” about something that is bothering us. It can be anything; a disturbing incident, an angry encounter, a close call. You notice that I didn’t list anything ‘good’ here. That is because, as people, we don’t usually rehash the good, just the bad. The worse the trauma, the more we go through it. The reason for this is that is how we handled this type of thing when we were children. A little person will tell you the same tale of trauma until you feel that you can’t stand to hear it again but, that is how they ‘talk themselves down’
As we mature we learn to keep most of these things to our selves but they do have a tendency to pop out somewhere else if we are not vigilant. One of the ways; as we mature into more positive people, we can handle this process is to change what we are thinking about. We do this by learning proper self talk. I.e. writing a better script in our heads.
The way to start the re-write is to go for the positive in all of your daily encounters. Look at what ever is going on (in ANY situation) and ask your self, “What makes this situation positive?” (I keep that sign hanging right by my computer so that I don’t forget). Next, ask your self “What are my assets?” These two questions will change the focus of your thoughts to a more positive slant.
The other thing that you can do to get your thoughts moving in the positive direction is to keep you a journal with you at all times (just until you get used to thinking this way). Every time you come up with a less than desirable thought, write it down. If you can change it to a positive statement at the time go, ahead and do it, if not, wait until you have some quiet time and refer back to your notes. Then rewrite the statement in the proper positive language. EXAMPLE: “That stupid jerk nearly ran me off the road! I wonder where he got his drivers license, Hasbro.” CORRECTION; “I am so glad he missed me, I hope he gets where he is going safely.”
It might sound a bit corny but it really does work. As you begin to change your inner vocabulary, your thoughts will turn toward a more positive flow. This flow will, in turn change what occupies your mind. As that focus changes you will find that your vibrations rise and, consequently, your life will flow better as well because, when you change what you think about, what you think about changes.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
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