DE-STRESS WITH EOS

                    DESTRESS WITH EOS 

                                                      © Chessie Roberts 2009 

                                          used on blogspot & linkedin by permission

Do you have concerns about this economy, budget cuts, cash flow, life in general, higher demands on your productivity, resources or or performance, your next business meeting? Then you have stress

I caution you here that stress is the number one killer in the United States (possibly in the world). Nine o’clock on Monday morning is the optimum time for this to occur.

Did you know that your emotions are contagious to yourself and others? This is because thoughts are actually fluctuations of energy that are carried throughout your body by chemicals called neuropeptides. Because you brain and physiology talk to each other through these neuropeptides, your brain is constantly eavesdropping on your body and your body is constantly eavesdropping on your thoughts. Because of this eavesdropping phenomenon, your body will react to a thought before you are even aware of it. Have you ever been startled by what looked like a snake in your yard only to realize, after you jumped and screamed that it was the garden hose? Maybe a spider appeared in an unexpected place only to turn out to be a fuzz ball? That is what I am speaking about.

I had this lesson taught to me very strongly one day at my chiropractors’ office. I had come in for relief from some horrible spasms that were occurring in my lower back He and I were chatting as he was making adjustments and he asked my opinion about some subject. My reply was forming on my lips when my spasm started in full force. What my reply was to be was; “That makes my butt twitch”. Do I have to tell you I don’t say that any more? The point here is that you think it and your body does it, whether you realize it or not, whether that’s what you want it to do or not. Therefore, we need to pay attention to our selves on a more conscious and aware level. If we do that, we will know sooner when we are reaching our limits and be able to lower the stress levels in a safe and positive manner.

A lot of my clients ask me just how stress hurts us. At each end of each chromosome are things called telomeres. These act much like the aglets (or fluggle-binders for those of you who are ‘Cocktail’ fans) on the ends of shoe laces. The telomeres are thinned down by stress chemicals, making them less and less effective in their ability to protect the chromosomes and when they are gone, the chromosome is opened to damage which can not be repaired. (60 Minutes report, August, 2005)

Some of the things we can do to help lower stress are easy and don’t cost anything. (Ha, more stress relief) Deep breathing, the in through the nose, out through the mouth kind, as you let go of tension helps. You don’t need to make yourself dizzy doing it, just two or three will help more than you realize and can be done just about anywhere. Regular breathing exchanges about 98% of your bodies a toms overt the course of a year. Conscious and aware deep breathing raises that exchange rate thus creating faster renewal which refreshes you and makes you better able to handle stress.

Since EOS is a Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance, let’s break this down the same way;

DE-STRESSING YOUR BODY; make some small lifestyle changes. Walk when you don’t need to drive (that will help distress the environment too) Take the stairs instead of the elevator, make better food and beverage choices, lower your use of alcohol and nicotine; some people see them as stress relievers but in reality, they stress your body more. Set a regular sleep schedule for your self. Go to bed and get up the same time every day, even on the weekends. Be sure you are getting the deep restoring rest that satisfies your personal requirements. Balance your time between work, family, rest and play. Play is important as a stress reliever; it lets you connect with you on levels you may not be aware of. Don’t over commit, it is OK to say no when you need to. At work, take short breaks frequently. When on longer breaks, leave your desk, office/workspace or the building when you can. Prioritize tasks and delegate when you are able. Hydrate. Your body is about 75% water and if you are dehydrated, you will not perform your best and you body will be stressed. I suggest ionized water because your body can more readily absorb it therefore it is more beneficial to you.

DE-STRESSING YOUR MIND; Learn to meditate and do it daily, learn and practice correct self talk; both of these disciplines help you develop a better communication with yourself and others. Read positive and uplifting materials that are not related to your job or profession, save those for when you are in ‘business mode’. Find or make a calm quiet place, go ahead, it is OK to do that, we all need quiet time. Learn to truly like yourself with no judgment or criticism. Hydrate. Your brain id about 95% water so when it is not hydrated properly, you don’t make good choices and decisions, nor do you feel well and your brain is terribly stressed.

DE-STRESSING YOUR SPIRIT; Attend regular religious/spiritual rituals with those of like mind. This connects you to a Greater Power, pray to ask and meditate to listen, help someone else. Helping another lightens our load because we are in the ‘giving mode’ rather than in the ‘stressed out/worried mode’. Laugh with genuine humor, learn something new and creative, learn to enjoy where yourself where you are right now rather than fret over what is wrong with where you are right now. And on of the simplest yet difficult things is to be grateful, genuinely grateful for everything you can think of. An Attitude of gratitude is one of the most powerful things we have at our disposal and, I would venture to say, one of the least used. Try it, you will be amazed.

To help you identify stress I have included a list of warning signs below. Please pay attention to the paragraph under the heading. If you are not sure what your stress level is, email me for a free work sheet that will assist you in placing just where you are in your level of stress.

Bright Blessings, Chessie


Warning Signs of Stress
These indicators can be caused by other possible medical situations. If you feel that you are experiencing any of these symptoms or warning signs, please see your physician for an exam to be sure of their origin.


Changes in Your Behavior; Changes in your Thought Process;
• Nervous habits starting or coming back
• Shaking foot/leg while waiting, nail biting, pacing
• Pulling away, isolating yourself
• Eating (too much, not enough)
• Use of nicotine, alcohol or any drug
• (prescription or recreational)
• Neglecting your responsibilities
• Procrastination
• Sleeping (too much, too little) • Difficulty or inability to concentrate
• Focusing on only the negative aspects of you life.
• Problems with memory
• Difficulty or inability to focus for any length of time
• Displaying poor judgment
• Overly anxious
• Racing thoughts
Your Physical Body; Your Emotions;
• Loss of sex drive
• More frequent occurrences in;
• Colds, respiratory problems i.e. Sinus infections, bronchitis, etc.
• Gastro-intestinal problems, frequent diarrhea, constipation, gas, cramps, nausea
• Dizziness
• Pain in chest/upper arm
• Heart rate becomes rapid
• General aches and pains • Feeling overwhelmed
• Moodiness; irritable, can’t relax, can’t get going
• Short tempered
• Depressed, don’t care
• Feeling alone or isolated (even around others)
• Unhappy with everything/every one
Remember; “The definition of relaxing is not lying on the couch sleeping or being lazy; it is a mentally active practice that leaves the body relaxed and refreshed. It is best done in an awake state. It is a trainable exercise that gets better with practice.” The University of Michigan Health Center


Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind Spirit Balance
Chessie Roberts; President, Meditation Coach

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REMREMBERING TO BALANCE WHAT IS IMPORTANT

          

            REMEMBERING TO BALANCE

                  WHAT IS IMPORTANT

                          © Chessie Roberts 2009 used on Blogspot by permission

One of my students asked me how to decide what is important in one's life and how should they prioritize everything they have to do. I told them about this experiment I saw in collage.

One of my professors came into class one day and announced that he was going to demonstrate one of the most important life lessons we would ever learn. He begin the class by wordlessly picking up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked us if the jar was full. We agreed that it was.

He then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar and shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked us again if the jar was full. We agreed it was.

He next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. Some of us thought it was.

He then produced a cup of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the grains of sand. We laughed..

'Now,' he said as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else---the small stuff. 'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no
room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you..
Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents (if you are still lucky enough to have them). Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. Our professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.' The coffee just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of coffee with a friend.

I have seen this done in business coaching events several times since then and use it myself in some of my classes. I feel that is an excellent visual to keep in mind when we wonder where our balance should be. Bright Blessings Chessie

What is EOS?

                 

                    WHAT IS EVOLUTION OF SELF; 

       JOURNEY INTO BODY, MIND, SPIRIT BALANCE 

                                                OR, EOS

                                                                   updated 11/23/2025

     I was asked today what EOS is so I thought I would answer here for you who are keeping up with me.

     EOS stands for "Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance.

     In this program I teach people how to use their body' s natural rhythms, energies, and thought processes to create a positive calm mind set, reduce stress and pain, how to talk to yourself to get what you truly want (instead of more of what you don't want),as well as to become more aware of your body's needs and to know when you are reaching your limits (physical, mental/emotional and spiritual) BEFORE you have a meltdown.

     Here is a short introduction to the program.

This whole experience was completely unexpected and utterly surprising. I started creating the program to figure out why the things I was doing to make myself feel better on a physical level were working so well and, on a higher level, began to see patterns of cause and effect. I was challenged by my chiropractor to “tell others” And I must admit that I thought he was nuts. 

     I have since found out that he was right. Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance has grown from just a program of restoring wholeness to the body to include the balance of mind and spirit. It helps seekers find a path that often seems hidden from casual observation. The spirit follows to find its way ever upward and outward to encompass the light of truth for which we all quest.

 The steps in the program are layered so that the reader starts out with the very basic information. Each lesson builds on the one before it and reaches out for the one that follows. The fact is that this is an experiential program. If you choose to embody the exercises that are presented and use them every day until they become second nature to you, your changes will be permanent and far reaching.

     I have learned that taking wisdom from only one source makes you rigid and stale, sort of a one trick pony in your thinking. However, while gleaning and mixing from many sources allows flexibility and pivot points from which to change and upgrade your perspective. This is why I have blended several modalities and philosophies to create this program to your highest good and best outcome, Chessie Roberts.

      The program is broken into four levels. The first level addresses the very basic point at which to begin building your triquetra of balance. 

     The second level builds on and dives deeper into how these changes help you get to the root of things and fix what you can, forgive what you can and allow you to let go of the rest. 

    The third level gives you tools to enable you to strengthen what you have learned. 

    And level four is a more real time explanation of how to keep up your good work. 

I hope this helps. Beight Blessings, Do Peace and Be Love. 

C. S. Roberts

  

Who is Chessie Roberts

                                                  

                                                MY BIO 

                                                 Updated 11/23/2025

     Chessie Roberts, is a gifted singer/songwriter, author and speaker. She began studying a better way to be healthy when she was told by her doctor to become accustomed to being fat, crippled and on narcotics. She had become so infirm that her music and quality of life were suffering, and a wheelchair was her constant companion.

     The charka system was not new to her, but this particular application was. By using it, visualization and mental reprogramming of outdated ideas in conjunction with chiropractic adjustments, she (and her chiropractor) found her improvement staggeringly rapid. Amazed and excited by this melding of traditions and practices, Roberts decided to share the information with others and created “Evolution of Self; A Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance.

     Through this series of programs, taught in three levels, Roberts leads participants through exercises that are designed to help them “tap into your own strength and knowledge that can bring clarity to your entire existence, making it better, healthier and more fulfilling” (C. S. Roberts EOS.)

      Each level of the program builds on the one before it and all together gives a framework for a truly balanced life. She has been studying, teaching and living this program for close to 20 years.
Born in Mississippi in 1950, Roberts was the daughter of a high school English teacher and a career Navy man. She quickly developed an insatiable curiosity about everything that happened to cross her path. Traveling extensively across America and to any country where her family found themselves assigned, her love of different traditions and thought processes was created and nurtured. Encouraged by grandparents and parents alike, she dug into many music traditions and different ideologies. Roberts studied on college level in Florida, Virginia and California. She also learned and uses from everyday life.

     She taught “Ethics in Worship” in small, selective classes for many years, writes both prose and music which she performs with her husband in the Archer’s Meadow band. She and her husband reside in the Tidewater area of Virginia and enjoy performing their music, sharing Evolution of Self, and spending time with their children and grandchildren.

Positive Balance

                                                   © Chessie Roberts 2009 all rights reserved

                                               Used on chessiesEOS.blogspot.com by permission

Can a cat ever be a dog? No? We all know that is an impossibility, yet we strive to do it to ourselves every day.
We mostly concentrate on the outside because society tells us what we should look like. We as women are always too something; fat, thin, short, tall, ‘insert failing here’. There are hordes of advertising messages to point these things out to us. “Is your hair straight? Then curl it with blabla! Too curly? Then straighten it with ‘name your product”! “Take this pill and look like ‘name the first movie/TV star that pops into your head”! “Are your body parts succumbing to gravity? Well Dr. Perky can lift your spirits”! No wonder we are feeling out of balance, according to all of that we will never be good enough for anything.
When does all of this start? At birth! The village raising you, though well meaning, parents; regular and grand, teachers' friends and other family, all have their ideas about who you should be and what you should look like, bother what you think, if they let you think at all. Then there is the media who target us younger and younger (there are programs for infants out there now) All of this is busy forming our mental images of ourselves and others. Most of the time it is done with a negative slant hidden in the seemingly ‘positive’ message. Just in case you are not aware of this, research shows that humans remember and take to heart the negative words, actions and inferences much more deeply than the positive ones. Positive input must constantly be reinforced. Is it any wonder that we try so diligently to correct what we think others think when they look at US? Actually, the other person is more concerned about what THEY think you think when you look at them! How is that for irony? The double whammy here is that the way we react to someone or to ourselves teaches those who are watching us how to treat others and themselves. Case in point; I have a friend who was horribly overweight, and she would expound to anyone in earshot how much she “hated skinny women because they were stuck up and looked sick.” Now that she has had gastric bypass surgery and wants her teen aged daughter to lose weight, guess what is going on in that house. The child who has this mental tape of her mothers’ words playing over and over in her head is having issues with losing weight. These people are out of balance.
Here's the kicker ladies, if you think you look/feel bad, you do. But, if you think you look/feel good, you do. I think it was Henry Ford that said, “If you think you can or if you think you can’t, you’re right”. The trick is having a positive balance and standing in your own power. Balance is crucial to everything on the planet and that means us too.
When you change what you think about, what you think about changes. So, find your positive, your good qualities and embrace them, love them without shame. Go so far as to celebrate them; it is okay and desirable to do that. In time the negative fades into nothingness and what you truly are shines through. Bright Blessings, Chessie

“Never let the opinions of someone who cannot truly know you hurt you; stand in your own power.” CSR, ‘Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance.’