ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

 ALL ABOUT LOVE

© Rev. C.S. Roberts 2011, all rights reserved

 

I officiate a lot of weddings and usually write a ceremony that reflects what the couple is focused on for their life together. I get all kinds of topic requests for this focus; family, children, blended families, ancestors, people and pets joining, two becoming one...the list is long. Recently I was asked to write a wedding ceremony that was all and only about love.

This was new and I 'love' the idea. As I began to consider the couple’s request I was pleasantly surprised at the resulting creation...but why should it be anything but wonderful with love as its focus? After reading it I decided to take out all of the directions and the family names and share it with you.

As we anticipate the upcoming shift, change, whatever you wish to call it; because it fits so well in all aspects of life, what better topic to embrace than love? I share now with you the dissertation on love, the most important emotion you can embrace. (the words in parenthesis are add ins for this blog)

 

We are gathered this day to celebrate love in all its forms but especially the love that makes a life commitment between two people (humans, God and the planet).

This type of love is not afraid to make promises and work to keep them. It seeks not only to be, but to continue. It is based as much, if not more, on the hopes for the future as on the pleasures of the present.

 

This unconditional love does not manipulate or try to change, it allows both (all things) to be who (and what) they were; growing into who (and what) they are, all the while encouraging them to rise into who (and what) they will become. It is a letting go of all expectations and is an embracing with full acceptance, trust and celebration of your mortal person-hood (and its connection to source and your home planet).

Unconditional love in its mature state understands and realizes the joy that comes from knowing that each of you is happy; both in the others company and out of it; it is to give fully with no expectation of return but receiving anyway, and it is trusting completely. Love, true unconditional love, needs no reason for its existence, it just is.

 

Knowing what love, in its purest state, is only half of this equation. The other half is to understand that marriage (whether between people or you with yourself or with your life in general) is not just a simple love affair but it is a bit of an ordeal; an ordeal of the sacrifice of your ego to this new relationship (whatever that may be). The relationship of two becoming one while keeping your individual centers; of creating another family within families requires such a sacrifice. Therefore, sacrifice not one to the other but to your relationship.

 

We as humans are born of stardust and deepest oceans, of erupting volcanoes and the bones of the earth. In creating and celebrating this union you are celebrating the heritage of all of these things and the love of all humans from the dawn of time. In making this commitment to love, honor and respect each other, you share that which is best in all of us and give a moment of light to the world. (The more we connect through love, the better off everyone/thing will be)

 

Do you now commit to each other in love, honor and respect?

 

Do you now promise to communicate in love and kindness with each other even when you fear you may distress the other?

 

Do you promise to commit to your own wellbeing, of body, mind and spirit so that you can relate to each other in a loving, positive and healthy way in order to provide a healthy home for each other?

 

Do you commit to support and comfort each other in times of illness and health as long as love shall last?

 

Look at the one you love and tell them what is in your heart.

 

Behold these rings those who witness; bind these children by their troth; let them grow in love together, love now joined is never lost.

 

Heart to thee, life to thee, now and forever so mote it be

 

It is done; two are one,

 

We, our planet, our Source are one. No ceremony is needed, only remembering and reconnecting on a conscious, aware level is required. Decide today to embrace unconditional love for yourself and all around you and grow in strength, peace and grace. Love, Light, Laughter and Bright Blessings, Reverend C. S. Roberts

TO MOTHERS; A SPECIAL GIFT FROM THE UNIVERSE

                                  TO MOTHERS

          A SPECIAL GIFT FROM THE UNIVERSE


By Chessie Roberts of Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance

Here’s to that first very personal, fleeting question teasing at the back of awareness, “Am I? Could it be possible? Now?

Here’s to the thrill of knowing and telling everyone, “Yes, I’m expecting! To the preparation, the waiting the celebrating, the wondering, Boy? Girl?

Here’s to the unique bond that is forged as you feel them grow, there, just under your heart all the while filling it, expanding it to dimensions never dreamed of before in your imaginings.

Here’s to the finding out and the realization that your life is about to change in ways you can only imagine.

Here’s to finding out you were so off the mark, those changes are more wonderful and terrifying that anything you could have thought up.

Here’s to the ‘firsts’, all of them the tiny and the huge. The ones that were important to them as well as the ones important to you.

Here’s to that gut wrenching paradigm shift that comes the first time you say/do something your mother used to say/do and you now truly understand the ‘why’ of it.

Here’s to the smiling support for their grand plans and the secret terror that they might get hurt. The pride in their accomplishments and the secret relief that your fears were for nothing.

Here’s to standing straight and tall, pride shining from you while you weep inside as they step out…

Here’s to watching them start their lives, on their own, in their own strength and with their own honor.

Here’s to stepping aside to enjoy learning their new family traditions and smiling warmly at the ones that they have held on to from the traditions that you taught them.

Here’s to laughing in private at their expectation of family, at their attempts at parenting while supporting them through their perceived failures. Holding them up and helping them find their strength in their new roles.

Here’s to attending the games and performances, babysitting and watching as their children grow into the wonderful people they are meant to be.

Here’s to the grace to becoming Grammie, to allowing them just to be. And through it all…

Here’s to that unique, special, indefinable bond, that special LOVE that makes you Mom. Happy Mothers’ Day

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all rights reserved

ARE YOU AN OPEN VESSEL?

              

                   ARE YOU AN OPEN VESSEL?

I was talking to my publicist about what to post this week. He said I should repost this particular blog due to the additions that are coming to Evolution of Self in this next week.

How much do you feel you know? Are you aware of the fact that if you think you know all there is to know about any subject, you stop learning about it? It’s true. It is like attempting to fill a cup that is already full, sort of futile and self-defeating.

If, however, you are always open to new information on all subjects, your knowledge and wisdom will grow, change, regroup and grow some more. Guess what? That’s how it is supposed to work. It is how we were initially wired. Will you ever learn it all? Gosh, I hope not because then you would be right back at the beginning of this thought process, see how this works?

So I ask you, how full is your cup? Do you have room to absorb more information? Does your knowledge lift you up? Is it worth being shared with others? Are you hungry to learn more? What do you do with the information you have outgrown; hold it or discard it? Letting go of that which no longer serves you is good, it makes room for new ideas, paradigms and growth to occur.

I charge you now to be open, share, ask, become enlightened and grow.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

GETTING RID OF “STUFF” THAT WE DON’T NEED ANY MORE

                 GETTING RID OF “STUFF”

             THAT WE DON’T NEED ANY MORE
                  ©Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

“Childhood stuff needed to happen because it did. So are you going to use it as an excuse to fail or rewrite your memes (old ideas in your head that you don’t need any more) to elevate yourself to be a better you?” Dr. Wayne Dyer

I ask myself this question every time I feel unsure of which way I need to move because an old tape keeps playing in my head. Just because someone taught us something when we were little does not mean that it still ‘fits’ now or that it was true in the first place. Just as we grow into and out of our clothing we grow into and out of ideas, thought processes and feelings. Here is the GREAT news for us…it is OK for that to happen. Actually, it is desirable for thoughts to grow and change as we grow and change.

Being stuck in our past is never a good thing. Forward movement must take place for us to evolve. If we don’t evolve, we stagnate and that causes pain, illness and frustration.

For those of you who are realizing that this is something you need to work on I strongly recommend the book “Virus of the Mind, the New Science of the Meme” by Richard Brodie. It will define this new thought process in a way that will make the transition clearer and therefore easier to navigate.

Bright Blessings and smooth sailing, Chessie