FEAR; IT’S NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF
WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE AND HAPPINESS?
© Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved
Who do you see as responsible for your life and happiness? Your partner? Your children? Perhaps it is your job or boss. Maybe you feel it’s where you live or what you drive. If you said yes to any of these things you should rethink who is in charge. It should be YOU.
Here is the kicker, if you aren’t happy, you are unhappy by your choice? WHAT?? You say my choice?? But I can’t help being _____ fill in the blank. But you can; you can choose to look for another way. Your choice of how you react to the ‘stuff’ going on around you puts you in either the victim role or the power role.
The victim role keeps you paralyzed and feeling that there is no way out. This in turn makes your pain, despair and fear worse. They feed off of each other to make you afraid to move. You are suffering over your own suffering.
First ask yourself “What am I getting out of staying in this situation?” Most of the time you stay because that situation is ‘the demon that you know’ and you are more comfortable not facing your unknown. But, I tell you that the anticipation of the unknown is worse than the thing itself.
When you take responsibility for your choices, I don’t mean to beat yourself up with the blame stick, I mean doing the best you can and owning your choices. I mean becoming aware of what you are not taking responsibility for so you can change your behavior to a more positive direction. I means looking for and taking advantage of the opportunities that you can find that will make your situation better; more of what you really want and not tolerating what you aren’t happy with. That is where you take your power back and make the fear diminish.
Try stepping out into your unknown, trusting that you will find firm footing or you will be taught to fly. Find out how amazing your life becomes when you stop expecting someone else to handle your ‘stuff’.
Until next week, Bright Blessings