SELF ESTEEM/WORTH AND THE LAW OF ATTRACTIONAND EVOLUTION OF SELF; JOURNEY INTO BODY, MIND, SPIRIT BALANCE

SELF ESTEEM, SELF WORTH

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

AND

EVOLUTION OF SELF;

JOURNEY INTO BODY, MIND, SPIRIT BALANCE

As many of you know, I used to post a daily question on my pages and the other day the question was, “How much value do you place on yourself?” The answers were rather depressing. They ranged from “Not much.” to “If I do have any value, it is in what my family requires of me.” 

You may feel that you are “being gracious” by not thinking highly of yourself but you are in actually pulling yourself down into a lowered vibration.

Here is one of the reasons that we have such a low opinion of ourselves; “By the time you're seventeen years old, you've heard "No you can't" an average of 150,000 times. You've heard "Yes you can," about 5,000 times. That's thirty no's for every yes. That makes a powerful belief of "I can't." {p.50 of The Answer by John Assaraf & Murray Smith} This makes it pretty clear why we habitually think what we habitually think. But here is the good news, we can change that, and here is why you should.

It may seem that a high opinion of yourself has no place in a philosophy like the Law of Attraction but in truth, it has everything to do with it. You can do all the “exercises” you want, follow all the rules and still not attract what you want. Why you ask? If you don't feel worthy way down inside, you will not attract what you are attempting to attract.

If you don't believe that you are a worthy, capable person; if you do not value yourself then no one else will either. More to the point those are the vibrations you are putting out to the universe and, consequently, they are the ones you will receive. Like attracts like, remember? All of this is part of what you feel you deserve out of life. If you believe you are worthy of and deserve the best, then that is what you will attract.

Then there is what you believe you are capable of achieving in life. If you feel, in your subconscious that you deserve to be happy and make the changes you need to make it happen, then you will be happy. However, if you don't believe these things, you could find yourself stuck where you would rather not be.

If you aren't sure whether or not you are in your own way, ask yourself how you react to negative parts of your life? Do you “lie down and take it?” Or do you decide to change what you feel needs changing? Do you believe you deserve the best out of life? Do you believe you are able to make your dreams a reality? Do you believe you already have or are able to learn the skills required to get what you want? Have you chosen to look within for the confident attitude to move in your chosen direction? 

 If you are working to change and truly believe you can do it, you are stepping out in courage and exercising your belief in yourself. If not, then you are holding yourself back and maybe it would be good to start working on changing your attitude about you.

Your self-worth depends on the habitual way you treat yourself as well as your innermost beliefs about your personality. So, in order to improve your self-worth, you can get started by working on a few things such as the following.

First, I tell you that the way you speak to yourself is crucial. If, when you think/talk to yourself you are critical and judgmental you will lower your own self esteem to the detriment of your body, mind and spirit. 

If, on the other hand, you are gentle, understanding and forgiving of yourself, you will create healthy reactions, calm mindset and positive attitudes about you and your life. This will lead to attracting these things to you. If you are conscious and aware, you should see results in a few weeks.

The next thing you can do is get in the habit of taking action toward your desires. If you believe in you enough to take your first step toward what you want and away from what you don't want, you are acting “in courage and faith”. Both of these will raise your feeling of self-worth. 

You take away the feeling of being trapped because you are in action. Do this without concerning yourself with the outcome, do what feels right and seldom will you go wrong. Start with small steps, if you feel a little nervous about it, that's OK, feel it and step out anyway. 

This will motivate you to step further next time. If it turns out you made a mistake, so what, forgive yourself, learn from it and start over. For instance, you feel that you just cannot speak in public and, because of this belief in yourself, you can't. Join a class on public speaking, learn how and practice. This action will change your belief, and you will find you can do what you thought you could not. See how that works?

If you do not believe in yourself, those around you will notice because your attitude spills out onto them. Both your attitudes about yourself and your attitudes about others and what you believe can be accomplished will shine like a beacon and people respond to it. If you don't believe you are competent to do a thing, you will be too scared to try so you get nowhere and become stuck. 

If, on the other hand you step out of your comfort zone and find you can do a thing, the next time will be easier, this raises your confidence, and you will have less difficulty in trying something else. It all comes down to what you think you deserve. You then attract the people and circumstances to confirm your feelings of self-worth.

Your next step is to take responsibility for your life up to now. Don't beat yourself up for things you don't feel good about or mistakes you've made. Forgive yourself and others, choose to make better choices in the future and move forward.

Your next thing is to have and show respect for yourself and what you stand for. If someone uses language that you feel is offensive, either to you or those around you, let them know. You can do this without arguing or being abusive, you can always leave. If someone crosses one of your core values, let them know that you will not engage in that behavior. If you don't respect yourself, no one else will either. As you act in ways that are worthy of you, you begin to attract people of higher frequency that will value you and themselves as well. That is how the Law of Attraction works, right? Right!

These are a few ways to get you started in the right direction to create your wonderful life your way. Step out, let your new light shine and enjoy being your awesome self! Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2012 all rights reserved

THE IMPORTANCE OF KEEPING ALIVE THAT LITTLE SPARK OF BOZO

THE IMPORTANCE OF KEEPING ALIVE THAT

 LITTLE SPARK

 OF BOZO

“Laugh! It's good for you!" C. S Roberts in S4S

I facilitate a Law of Attraction meeting twice a month and it is one of the most enjoyable things that I do. Our group is close knit with room for newcomers, ideas, experiences and we seem to laugh a lot. So much so that one of the members of the group calls us her laughing group. I got to wondering just what happens when we laugh? And why is it so good for us? And as is my nature I went searching out the physical side of it to go along with the mental and spiritual side of things. Here is what I found out.

In laughing long and well, we breathe deeply. When we breathe deeply, we expand the cells of our lungs which prevents them from sticking together.(I was completely unaware that this could occur.) Because of this expansion, a predisposition to fight infection is created. We know that oxygenation of the blood is a good thing and the other side of that is riding our bodies of carbon dioxide which is great for our overall health, laughing does all of this for us. Researchers have found that laughing long, hard and often releases endorphins. These hormones being released in our brains does amazing things; they make us feel happy with a sense of overall well being, they also help lower pain levels.

This information was the brain child of a man named Norman Cousins. Mr Cousins was the editor of The Saturday Review and one day he found out that he had a life threatening illness. He was not ready to give the illness an upper hand so he chose to be proactive. During his research he read a theory that said having lower vibrational feelings ( such as worry, fear, anticipation of the worst case scenario) about ones life and situations may have detrimental effects on ones biology; so,conversely, higher vibrational feelings must make one feel better and be healthier. (such as feeling happy, anticipation of the best outcome, joy) He decided that the easiest way to accomplish this goal of better health was to laugh. He decided to watch movies of the “Three Stooges” for eight hours a day for many weeks and he read a lot of funny books. By listening to his body, he just knew that this was what he needed to create wellness within himself.

OK so how did this work? Those endorphins come into play again, they are aided by dopamine and oxytocin. All of these natural hormonal chemicals work together to keep you up, happy and functioning at your best. Mr cousins found that he was incapable of feeling depressed because it is a physical impossibility to be both depressed and laugh at the same time. He also found that the laughing helped him sleep better. He lengthened his life span by fifteen years. He also wrote a book about his experience. (“The Anatomy of An Illness”) Now the wonderful thing here is that the AMA paid attention and published an article about laughter and it's healing properties in the 1989 Journal of the American Medical Association that stated that “laughter would relieve symptoms and improve patients overall quality of life.”

Laughter does several other things that are beneficial to our biology;

It helps flush out many of the toxins that are released when your heart and lungs begin moving your highly oxygenated blood pumping throughout your body. You could see it as; laughter+a higher energy vibration= movement and change.

Laughter renews hope;
It can ease all types of pain from arthritis to that of a heart break, it relieves tension (it is why we sometimes laugh in what we feel is an inappropriate situation) Laughter causes us to change the way we are looking at a situation.

As you laugh and relax;

You begin to feel good all over, it raises your mood, gives you an adrenalin rush which invigorates both your mind and body.

Laughter spreads through a group;

Have you ever experienced this? A group of friends is laughing and you get caught up in it without any idea what is so funny? Try watching a baby laughing and not laugh yourself...it is almost impossible! (LOL, just writing about it made me laugh)

Being in a state of good humor, amusement and joy will help you feel where you are stuck and allow you to move the blockage. When you are in joy you are lighter; vibrating higher and this will overflow onto those around you because you are uplifting and positive. You are more at peace and this will radiate from you.

If you should find yourself in a circumstance that makes it difficult to find the lighter side, try taking a break to watch a funny movie (one that is funny to YOU, not everyone is amused by the same things) read a humorous book, watch funny videos or some standup. Just like you would look for gratitude in any situation, look for humor within this situation.

We were born to laugh, it is part of us as natural as breathing or crying, it is an innate gift of humanity. If you smile, no matter how you think you feel, soon you will feel true bliss and joy. It is OK to feel good, no matter how those around you feel, it is OK to smile no matter whether others are smiling or not. It is OK to be happy, to laugh to be in a joyful state. The longer you live in happiness, the more you will like it.

Speaking of liking something, the Law of Attraction tells us that like attracts like and you know this is true. If something or someone does not vibrate with you, you find somewhere else to be, right? If you are not vibrating at a high frequency, you attract lower frequency people and places to you. When you raise your frequency, so does your environment. You laugh, you smile, you are happy!

Laughter lifts us over high ridges and lights up dark valleys
in a way that makes life so much easier. It is a priceless gem,
a gift of release and healing direct from Heaven.{Alan Cohen}

Did you know that children laugh, up to 400 times a day? Adults laugh only about 17 times a day. That to me is a sad statistic. I know that since I have started laughing more often, my life is better on all levels. Being serious is now a sometimes thing for me and I like that. Laughter can turn your perceptions and mind-stream around in an instant, it can change your viewpoint, help you heal yourself and handle most anything when you are light-hearted.

“A day without laughter, is a day wasted” {Charlie Chaplin}

Here are some tips to help you get started;

A good exercise for your brain and your lungs is to laugh and smile, it is that oxygenation thing again. You will find that you think clearer and feel more energized.

The other brain benefit is that nerves within the brain are used that you don't usually use, this falls under the “use it or lose it” rule. Your facial muscles get a good work out too and that is good for keeping that young look. Research shows that by laughing for only five minutes is more beneficial than working out for five hours.

As you focus on laughing and smiling you will find that you will be joyous within your being; your heart chakra will take up the habit and soon you will begin radiating joy and love from deep within you. Truthfully it has always been there, you just need to remember it, find it and use it again.

Laughter is one of you most powerful tools that you have at your disposal to make improvements in your life. The Law of Laughter says if you laugh with all your heart, your health improves and your life changes. Laughter will bring you closer to your goal of wholeness and happiness.

I send you all Light, Love, Laughter and Bright Blessings, Chessie

© 2012 Chessie Roberts, All rights reserved