SELF ESTEEM/WORTH AND THE LAW OF ATTRACTIONAND EVOLUTION OF SELF; JOURNEY INTO BODY, MIND, SPIRIT BALANCE

SELF ESTEEM, SELF WORTH

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION

AND

EVOLUTION OF SELF;

JOURNEY INTO BODY, MIND, SPIRIT BALANCE

As many of you know, I used to post a daily question on my pages and the other day the question was, “How much value do you place on yourself?” The answers were rather depressing. They ranged from “Not much.” to “If I do have any value, it is in what my family requires of me.” 

You may feel that you are “being gracious” by not thinking highly of yourself but you are in actually pulling yourself down into a lowered vibration.

Here is one of the reasons that we have such a low opinion of ourselves; “By the time you're seventeen years old, you've heard "No you can't" an average of 150,000 times. You've heard "Yes you can," about 5,000 times. That's thirty no's for every yes. That makes a powerful belief of "I can't." {p.50 of The Answer by John Assaraf & Murray Smith} This makes it pretty clear why we habitually think what we habitually think. But here is the good news, we can change that, and here is why you should.

It may seem that a high opinion of yourself has no place in a philosophy like the Law of Attraction but in truth, it has everything to do with it. You can do all the “exercises” you want, follow all the rules and still not attract what you want. Why you ask? If you don't feel worthy way down inside, you will not attract what you are attempting to attract.

If you don't believe that you are a worthy, capable person; if you do not value yourself then no one else will either. More to the point those are the vibrations you are putting out to the universe and, consequently, they are the ones you will receive. Like attracts like, remember? All of this is part of what you feel you deserve out of life. If you believe you are worthy of and deserve the best, then that is what you will attract.

Then there is what you believe you are capable of achieving in life. If you feel, in your subconscious that you deserve to be happy and make the changes you need to make it happen, then you will be happy. However, if you don't believe these things, you could find yourself stuck where you would rather not be.

If you aren't sure whether or not you are in your own way, ask yourself how you react to negative parts of your life? Do you “lie down and take it?” Or do you decide to change what you feel needs changing? Do you believe you deserve the best out of life? Do you believe you are able to make your dreams a reality? Do you believe you already have or are able to learn the skills required to get what you want? Have you chosen to look within for the confident attitude to move in your chosen direction? 

 If you are working to change and truly believe you can do it, you are stepping out in courage and exercising your belief in yourself. If not, then you are holding yourself back and maybe it would be good to start working on changing your attitude about you.

Your self-worth depends on the habitual way you treat yourself as well as your innermost beliefs about your personality. So, in order to improve your self-worth, you can get started by working on a few things such as the following.

First, I tell you that the way you speak to yourself is crucial. If, when you think/talk to yourself you are critical and judgmental you will lower your own self esteem to the detriment of your body, mind and spirit. 

If, on the other hand, you are gentle, understanding and forgiving of yourself, you will create healthy reactions, calm mindset and positive attitudes about you and your life. This will lead to attracting these things to you. If you are conscious and aware, you should see results in a few weeks.

The next thing you can do is get in the habit of taking action toward your desires. If you believe in you enough to take your first step toward what you want and away from what you don't want, you are acting “in courage and faith”. Both of these will raise your feeling of self-worth. 

You take away the feeling of being trapped because you are in action. Do this without concerning yourself with the outcome, do what feels right and seldom will you go wrong. Start with small steps, if you feel a little nervous about it, that's OK, feel it and step out anyway. 

This will motivate you to step further next time. If it turns out you made a mistake, so what, forgive yourself, learn from it and start over. For instance, you feel that you just cannot speak in public and, because of this belief in yourself, you can't. Join a class on public speaking, learn how and practice. This action will change your belief, and you will find you can do what you thought you could not. See how that works?

If you do not believe in yourself, those around you will notice because your attitude spills out onto them. Both your attitudes about yourself and your attitudes about others and what you believe can be accomplished will shine like a beacon and people respond to it. If you don't believe you are competent to do a thing, you will be too scared to try so you get nowhere and become stuck. 

If, on the other hand you step out of your comfort zone and find you can do a thing, the next time will be easier, this raises your confidence, and you will have less difficulty in trying something else. It all comes down to what you think you deserve. You then attract the people and circumstances to confirm your feelings of self-worth.

Your next step is to take responsibility for your life up to now. Don't beat yourself up for things you don't feel good about or mistakes you've made. Forgive yourself and others, choose to make better choices in the future and move forward.

Your next thing is to have and show respect for yourself and what you stand for. If someone uses language that you feel is offensive, either to you or those around you, let them know. You can do this without arguing or being abusive, you can always leave. If someone crosses one of your core values, let them know that you will not engage in that behavior. If you don't respect yourself, no one else will either. As you act in ways that are worthy of you, you begin to attract people of higher frequency that will value you and themselves as well. That is how the Law of Attraction works, right? Right!

These are a few ways to get you started in the right direction to create your wonderful life your way. Step out, let your new light shine and enjoy being your awesome self! Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2012 all rights reserved

TO THINK YOU KNOW IS NOT TO SEEK

TO THINK YOU KNOW IS NOT TO SEEK

“Study and practice are both very important, but they must go hand in hand. Faith without knowledge is not sufficient. Faith needs to be supported by reason. However, intellectual understanding that is not applied in practice is also of little use. Whatever we learn from study we need to apply sincerely in our daily lives.” {The Dalai Lama} How many books about spiritual practices do you own? How many classes have you taken? How many degrees have been conferred upon you? How many self-help books, classes, and degrees do you have? Now the hard question; What are you doing with all of this information?




Humans seeking enlightenment seem to have a tendency to become collectors of information and, once it has been obtained, we are prone to be proud of its ownership. Our shelves are full of information but what about our lives? Our everyday, mundane, one foot in front of the other lives? When is this wonderful information used?




In order to become the better, spiritual person that so many say they want to become, the information must be incorporated into your daily practices. Here is where most of us get into a dilemma. How to do this. We are so “informed” that we are choking on the huge wad of “what to do-s” and “what not to do-s” that we give up in frustration and do nothing, thus not becoming anything other than what we already were; the person we weren't happy with to start with.




Here is a suggestion, find a program that will give you a foundation on which to start. One that will guide you through your own “stuff” so that you can see/feel step by step what it is you are trying to accomplish; the you that you wish to create. Then incorporate those practices until they become second nature to you so that you can grow further as your understanding reaches new heights.




Practices are called that for a reason, if you do not practice, you will not achieve. When you were a baby learning to walk, you practiced diligently to get the hang of putting one step after the next. You learned to talk so that others could understand you with the same determination. What about learning to drive, how long did you strive for that goal? Everything worth doing has taken practice. Think about this the next time you are ready to announce that you “can't” do something; meditate, pray, feel another's distress or joy, or let something go.

 Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance is such a program. One of my students called it “an easy to learn/digest package that is now available for those who are are willing to accept it when it's offered.” 

 Please feel free to ask questions that you may have, in the comments and I will answer them as soon as I can 

 

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all rights reserved (491)

 

WHAT SHOULD I SAY WHEN I TALK TO MYSELF?

WHAT SHOULD I SAY WHEN I TALK TO MYSELF?

 

What you should say to yourself depends entirely upon what you wish to achieve. It is said in many places that “where your attention goes, energy flows” and that “like attracts like.” That should give you strong guidelines for your self-talk

First, what do you desire? You must first truly and intensely wish to achieve something definite. It does not matter what it is, money, a new home, a job either new or a different one, a vacation, a mate…anything. As you desire (notice I did not say want) whatever it is you put your energy in that direction; and  your mind becomes saturated with whatever it is so that you can feel you already have it, Nature begins to assist you. How? We don’t really know, She just does and it works. I caution you here that this also works for things you feel you don’t desire as well.

If you put your energy into thinking about everything you do not wish to have you just bring more of it in to your life. Confused yet? Ok think about this for a minute. Someone said to me the other day, “I am so worried about my daughter! She is having a baby, and I am afraid for her!” I asked why, what was wrong with the daughter and her unborn child. “Oh nothing,” the woman said, “it’s just that I had trouble giving birth and I just know she will too, so I am worried sick.” Do you see what this person is doing? With her worry, she is creating an unpleasant and possibly dangerous and life-threatening situation for everyone involved.

How could she turn that around? By putting her fears aside and being genuinely grateful for her daughter and new grandchild. Being confident and appreciative for the Drs and their skill and surrounding her daughter with positive loving and supportive energy. This thought process will not only help the daughter, the baby, everyone on the hospital team but it will help her too. See how it works?

I know you have heard about creating a self-fulfilling prophecy and that is what you do when you talk/think to yourself. It is your choice to create the situation you really desire or the other one (the situation you don’t want).

 

Speaking positively and kindly to yourself is a new way to think when you first start out and it does take some practice but once you get the hang of it, it’s not so hard.

1) Look for the good in things rather than what annoys you.

2) Find beauty in your surroundings and enjoy it.

3) Be grateful for everything you already have and

4) get rid of what you have that you don’t use. Make room for what you really desire.

5) Choose your words/thoughts carefully and with conscious awareness so that they are worthy of you and see how much better your outcomes are.

 

Bright Blessings, Chessie

 

©C. S. Roberts 2011 all rights reserved

 

APPERECIATION AND ABUNDANCE

           APPERECIATION AND ABUNDANCE

I was told by a friend recently that she is having trouble manifesting what she wants. So, I asked her how she truly felt about what she was asking for. She confessed that she wasn’t sure she really deserved what she wanted and was worried about how she would afford it.

I told her that because the Universe reflects back to you at the level which you are able to accept, appreciate what you have and project abundance in your emotions, self-talk, your thoughts, and visualization. If you don’t feel you deserve whatever it is you want, those are the feelings that will vibrate out to the Universe. Those feelings of doubt are what will register and create more of what you say you don’t want. If you worry about lack, then that is what you will have. Remember that emotion is energy in motion and that is what drives all manifestation.

Your dreams and desires are there for the asking, but you must ask correctly. It is a lot like the whiney child bugging mom. They are more apt to get a timeout for being annoying than receiving the cookie they want. The Universe converses in a vibratory language. Whatever vibrational frequency you resonate on is the one the Universe will respond to. If you vibrate on a frequency of need, want or lack, that is what you will receive.

If on the other hand, you raise your vibrational level to the frequency of gratitude, abundance and acceptance, because like attracts like the Universe responds with gratitude, acceptance and abundance.

Practice being grateful and loving in all of your thoughts, words (both spoken aloud and those you use to talk to yourself) and emotions and see how things change for you. I caution you that this shift doesn’t happen quickly, it comes from your habitual thoughts and emotions. You can start today to change your habits so that they reflect your vibrational frequencies to a higher, more loving and grateful level so that you can manifest what you truly want.

Bright Blessings and Abundance to you all C. S. Roberts

© Chessie Roberts 2011 all rights reserved

WHAT WE THINK WE CARRY

                    WHAT WE THINK WE CARRY

“Don’t carry nothin’ that might be a load, just ease on down the road.” (from The Wiz)

Describe yourself in one word. That’s OK, I’ll wait…
What did you come up with? The color of your skin? Your job description? Your role in your family? Your religion? Hair color? Your ethnicity? Well I tell you that all of these ideas about what you think make up the real you, are just a load that you are carrying and you can put it down, if you choose to do so.

I’m reminded of the story about the young man who was looking for gold. He took a large backpack with him on his quest and when he found a rock he would carefully examine it to see if it was gold or not. As he determined that each rock in its turn was NOT the gold he was searching for, he placed the rock in his backpack. Pretty soon he was exhausted and sat down to rest. While he rested, he looked into the back pack and wept because there were so many stones that were not gold. He felt defeated, helpless and without worth and so decided to abandon his quest because his load was too heavy.

As people, we do this all the time. We look at what we think we are and then we look at all the baggage we feel goes along with what we think we are and weep because our load is too heavy. How do we fix this you might ask? The answer is very simple, find out what we really are; it is a one-word answer and has no attending baggage.

We are quite simply a soul. Each and every one of us is a piece of the divine consciousness, made of and from the Divine. Always connected to that from which we were made whether we realize it or not. Once we embrace our true essence, our core, our source; our load disappears, becomes effortless and becomes joy. Are you ready to know your true self? Are you ready to stop struggling with burdens of your own making? Are you ready to let go and just be? Are you ready to be the joy-filled, spontaneous and loving individual that you were intended to be. Then know yourSelf, embrace your SELF and just be…

I wish you Bright Blessings, spontaneity and love, C. S. Roberts

© Chessie Roberts 2011 all rights reserved

THE FIGHT AGAINST BULLYING! REALLY?

   THE FIGHT AGAINST BULLYING! REALLY?

Mother Teresa said: “I will never attend an anti-war rally; if you have a peace rally, invite me.”

I stumbled across a news announcer talking about the fight against bullying. I was astounded, fight a fighting behavior, does this make sense to anyone? Isn’t that like taking a pill to stop a symptom rather than finding the root cause of the illness; like damming a river to force it to do your bidding and being upset when the dam breaks and there is destruction everywhere; like building on a flood plain and getting upset when your building gets wet? Fight? Really?

Let’s look at where bullying behavior comes from. The bully has no sense of his (I am using his to mean hers too ladies, so you read on too) own self-worth. In order to feel good about himself, he makes others feel bad about themselves.

What creates the person who is bullied? News flash, and I repeat myself here folks, they have no sense of their own self-worth. Because of their lack, they believe the venom being spewed by the bully. Do you see a pattern forming here?

Why do these people fail to learn this most important lesson? It is not that they fail to learn something, it is that they are not being taught. We as people do not learn what we are not exposed to. If we aren’t taught our self-worth, we don’t realize that we have one. Unfortunately, as thinking beings, we discover that we truly need this information and the lucky ones look for an intelligent, positive way to find their worth.

The other part of this is that the lack of information on this topic is filled by the input from our society. Let’s face it, TV is full of this bullying type of programming. Our society sees bullying behavior as entertainment so how can it be unacceptable? Without guidance, an impressionable person will take that information from both extremes and run with it.

However, youth will believe the worst about both themselves and those around them, it is part of immaturity. But, to get to a more mature outlook, we have to decide and be guided to see what doesn’t work. We have to discern that bullying and being bullied does not work.

Do we fight with the bully? No, that gives him something to push against. Do we feel sorry for the poor victim? No, they are doing that well enough all by themselves. This begs the question, what do we do to stop this madness? We go to the root of the situation. Teach them self-worth. Once they realize that they are indeed worthy to be here, no matter where they are; once they realize that others are worthy also and that we all need each other on different levels and for different things; that we are all worthy, the unwanted behavior will stop.

Your rights stop where another’s rights begin and that is a truth that cannot be denied. So, if you feel that you are so important that you can hurt everyone around you, I tell you that you are wrong! If you feel that you are useless, and good for nothing I say to you that you are wrong. We are all of here for a purpose and no purpose, no person is more important than any other. We are a community that must get along with each other or destroy each other. Which scenario do you think will serve us better, cooperation or extinction?

Shall we learn together to coexist? I say that is a good idea, lets educate, grow up and stop this ignorant, childish and hurtful acting out!

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2011 all rights reserved