STANDING IN YOUR OWN POWER

             STANDING IN YOUR OWN POWER

How does one stand in their own power? First thing you need to do is to determine who is holding your power right now. We are taught to give it away at an early age. We learn quickly to live our lives by committee and not make any decisions without the approval of those around us. Secondly you need to decide if you want to stay in that situation or do you want to take back what is yours; whether you gave it willingly, grudgingly or unknowingly it is still your power.

We have to give over our power to those who raise us in order to survive but when we reach a certain maturity level, we should learn to take it back. Instead, we trust others with our opinions and feelings. Every time we look to them for approval for any decision we may make, we give them some of our power. The medical profession has done a stellar job of convincing us that we should listen only to them when it comes to our physicality. When we allow someone to anger us, hurt us or make us sad, we give away some more of our power. The list of others we look to for approval is rather large when you count it up; friends, relatives, agencies, and other well-meaning people who seem to know more about what we require than we do. Pretty soon, we have no power of our own and we wonder why we feel so helpless.

 

The truth of the matter is that we are only as helpless as we think we are. Others control us only as much as we allow them to. Think about exactly where your power is leaking, who/what do you go to for validation and acceptance? How angry do you get in any particular circumstance or around certain people? Who do you allow to make you sad?

 

Dr Wayne Dyer says,” Release the need to be upset with others. Remember that any time you are filled with resentment you are turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate.” When you are strong in your own power, no one and nothing can deter you from your path. So, the next time you feel an emotion about something, or someone ask yourself if you really want to give that thing or person the ability to manipulate you. If you do, then go ahead but don't whine about it later. If you do not, good for you , you have taken the first step in taking back and standing in your own power.

Bright Blessings, C. S. Roberts

 

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all rights reserved

 

CHOICE VS DECISION

            

                      CHOICE VS DECISION

What, if anything is the difference between the two? I would say that there is a big one. One indicates a direction and the other one, possibility. One is a turning point, the other is an option. One is the reaching of a conclusion, the other is an action.

Let’s look at the word “decision”; making a decision is the first act in creating a direction, the reaching of a conclusion thereby passing judgment upon an issue. This judgment cuts off other options so by definition it is a possible turning point for you. Decisions are made from a belief system. This system is usually based on what the committee you operate in thinks you should or expects you to do. These decisions may not turn out to be very empowering because they are usually made from an emotional place deep within you that doesn’t have all the facts, so that they will not be very flexible and may, in fact seem at the time, to be completely unchangeable. A decision is often made but not implemented. They are put off to a later time and so turn out to be undirected energy, therefore wasted. Think about all those proclamations made for New Year resolutions, those life changing decisions that never manifest and are lost and forgotten.

Now let’s look at the word “choice”; this word creates the idea of possibilities, it denotes several options, a variety from which to choose, sort of like picking from a menu. The ability to exercise choice allows us to have options, that we can revisit our choice and choose again if we feel the need. Choosing is usually fact based, rather than emotion based. Because of this, you will find that it is best to be crystal clear about what outcome you truly want. The clearer you are about what you expect to achieve, the better your choice will be. (Yes, this part of goal setting)

A choice is actually movement, a path of action; something that can be seen and felt by, not only you but by those around you. Choosing moves energy, creates changes in its field that begin the manifestation of what you want to set into motion.

Because a ‘decision’ is a direction and a ‘choice’ is the action that drives the decision the distance between the two can be enormous and is why some people get things done and some people do not. If you ‘decide’ something but don’t choose an action to drive the decision, you accomplish…nothing. The universe feels no shift in your energy so responds in like energy with an inaction. “That’s what you are happy with? OK then, you shall have that.” The decision that you make on the level of thought is an attempt to make up your mind to begin to create a plan; but, only if you choose to act on it, will you get what you want or get where you want to be.

So how can you make good decisions? First of all, you need to have a plan, a goal, an end product or result you want to create. Then ask yourself if the decision that you are considering is going to move you toward or away from your goal. Then consider whether or not you are committed to investing the energy to choose actions that will make the energy move; shift toward what you feel you want. Will you choose to drive your plan or not? The decision, the choice is yours.

Bright Blessings, C. S. Roberts

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all rights reserved