ONE OF OUR MOST ENDURING LESSONS WE LEARN IN KINDERGARTEN

ONE OF OUR MOST ENDURING LESSONS WE LEARN IN KINDERGARTEN

 

“Come on Honey, it's time to go to Big Boy/Girl school.”

“I don't want to go! I want to stay home with you!”

“Come on sweetheart you will have a good time and meet all kinds of new friends and play new games! You'll love it!!”

Sullenly, “OK.”

 

AT THE SCHOOL:

 

“Here we are, hop put and let’s meet your teacher.”

The water works start and then the screaming, “NNNNNOOOO! MMMOOOMMMYYY! You are terrified of the unknown and don't want your comfort, your known quantity to leave.

 

The teacher gently but firmly takes you back into the school while Mom quickly walks away with a big smile and promises to come back after school is over.

 

As you become interested and then engrossed in the day’s lessons and play, Mommy fades to the back of your mind and you begin having a wonderful time. Soon the bell rings and Teacher says, “It's time to go home.” and Mommy appears at the door.

 

The waterworks start in reverse, this time not from fear but frustration. The fear you felt earlier has been replaced by fun and new things, you will learn quickly the coming and going of school and you move on.

 

This is a conversation I had with a friend of mine several mornings ago.

 

Friend: “Why do we hang onto the very things we know we must let go of?”

 

Me; “Comfort zone stuff. We get comfortable with the situation and change is scary. Knowing something and acting on that knowledge are entirely two different things,

F: “So I guess we will ultimately change when the push to change becomes less uncomfortable than the draw of staying the same?

M; “Bingo! When we can “act in” and “do courage”, then we grow. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway.”

F; “Excellent point! It is a choice after all.”

M: “It is and always has been a choice.”

F; “It's the kindergarten thing again then Hun?”

M; “Yes, who knew THAT would follow us so far?”

F; “It is interesting how we speak(think) our lives into existence! ...When we see that...oh boy! Life is getting fun!”

And there it is, The Kindergarten Thing. It isn't just an event in our lives, It is something that we go through over and over again as we live our lives. Elementary school, entering high school, dating, doctors/dentist appointments, speeches, marriage/divorce, new jobs, childbirth, a death in the family and, maybe the most frightening of all spiritual growth. We face changes all of our lives. Most of the time we breeze right through them but there are the ones that take us right back to kindergarten.

The more personal these things are the more we resist them and hang onto the very thing(s) we KNOW we need to let go of. The fear of the unknown will sometimes stop us cold. Now here is the problem with that; most will stay where they are not happy and complain, worry and internalize their fear and frustration, putting themselves in the roll of “victim”. All the while blaming the boss or the situation when all they have to do is decide to make a change for the better. While they are feeling stuck and spinning themselves up into a frenzy over their “bad luck” and being the victim, they are making themselves sick. Then, when their bodies succumb to the eternal stuff that they are CHOOSING to put themselves through they can cry victim once again because they are now very sick. Here is where you face the choice to stay feeling sorry for yourself or deciding you don't want to play anymore.

 

When you face your fear of change and step out in courage and trust that you can help yourself, your life begins to change in wonderful and unexpected ways. The next time you have to go back to kindergarten remember this and you will do well. Bright Blessings and Happy First Day of School!

 

© Chessie Roberts 2011 all rights reserved

 

CHOICE VS DECISION

            

                      CHOICE VS DECISION

What, if anything is the difference between the two? I would say that there is a big one. One indicates a direction and the other one, possibility. One is a turning point, the other is an option. One is the reaching of a conclusion, the other is an action.

Let’s look at the word “decision”; making a decision is the first act in creating a direction, the reaching of a conclusion thereby passing judgment upon an issue. This judgment cuts off other options so by definition it is a possible turning point for you. Decisions are made from a belief system. This system is usually based on what the committee you operate in thinks you should or expects you to do. These decisions may not turn out to be very empowering because they are usually made from an emotional place deep within you that doesn’t have all the facts, so that they will not be very flexible and may, in fact seem at the time, to be completely unchangeable. A decision is often made but not implemented. They are put off to a later time and so turn out to be undirected energy, therefore wasted. Think about all those proclamations made for New Year resolutions, those life changing decisions that never manifest and are lost and forgotten.

Now let’s look at the word “choice”; this word creates the idea of possibilities, it denotes several options, a variety from which to choose, sort of like picking from a menu. The ability to exercise choice allows us to have options, that we can revisit our choice and choose again if we feel the need. Choosing is usually fact based, rather than emotion based. Because of this, you will find that it is best to be crystal clear about what outcome you truly want. The clearer you are about what you expect to achieve, the better your choice will be. (Yes, this part of goal setting)

A choice is actually movement, a path of action; something that can be seen and felt by, not only you but by those around you. Choosing moves energy, creates changes in its field that begin the manifestation of what you want to set into motion.

Because a ‘decision’ is a direction and a ‘choice’ is the action that drives the decision the distance between the two can be enormous and is why some people get things done and some people do not. If you ‘decide’ something but don’t choose an action to drive the decision, you accomplish…nothing. The universe feels no shift in your energy so responds in like energy with an inaction. “That’s what you are happy with? OK then, you shall have that.” The decision that you make on the level of thought is an attempt to make up your mind to begin to create a plan; but, only if you choose to act on it, will you get what you want or get where you want to be.

So how can you make good decisions? First of all, you need to have a plan, a goal, an end product or result you want to create. Then ask yourself if the decision that you are considering is going to move you toward or away from your goal. Then consider whether or not you are committed to investing the energy to choose actions that will make the energy move; shift toward what you feel you want. Will you choose to drive your plan or not? The decision, the choice is yours.

Bright Blessings, C. S. Roberts

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all rights reserved

ENERGETIC “SEEING”

                          ENERGETIC “SEEING”

                         My Journey of Awakening 

                                     Perceptions

 

“By seeing everything around me as exquisitely beautiful,
By hearing every sound as the most beautiful of music,
By feeling every rhythm as the very heartbeat of life,
My habitual perceptions of the world will change,
Transform and I will move beyond the outward surface of all things around me and truly connect with what is “the source”, the “I AM”.”

We can all see the beauty of Nature but today I experienced feeling the energy of beauty. I was struck by the depth at which I was affected and by the length of time the feeling stayed with me.

When we see with our eyes, we register whatever it was the caught our attention and then it’s gone. Yes, we can call it up in our memory and that is good, but this is different, deeper, fuller, more whole, if you will. But to allow the energy of beauty to penetrate you is a remarkable sensation.

As the energy of beauty joined with my personal, familiar energy they seemed to join to form a new energy; one of stillness and peace, very much like a point of crystal clarity and total acceptance, integration and peace.

This totally new concept of energy, calm and peace has stayed with me and expanded to encompass everything that I have come in contact with. I feel that this peaceful center is what I have searched for all my life and I can hardly wait to see what the next level will be.

Bright Blessings and Energetic Seeing to all of you,
Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all rights reserved

Life Lessons, Choices, Destiny, Karma and the Law of Attraction

                Life Lessons, Choices, Destiny, Karma

                          and the Law of Attraction

“Destiny is what we make of it, Karma is how we shape it and Law of Attraction is a tool we can use to achieve the end that we want.” (TR)

Adversity, Karma, luck, good or bad; whatever you want to call it is something that we all live with. Because we have choices at every crossroads, we can choose to be victimized by it or choose to use it for what it actually is, a life lesson from which to grow.

By choosing to turn your mind-set toward the positive you can turn any situation around, change a negative into a positive. By looking at each situation as your ‘next best thing’ you create a freeing and empowering thought process. This is the choice that allows you to take your own power back from any situation that seems to be “adversity or bad luck”. By feeling an emotion of a positive nature, you incorporate the law of attraction to drive manifestation that will create what you want. You create a fertile area of positivity that allows your new mind-set to flourish.

I have taught this lesson for many years now and this is how I learned it. Some time ago I thought I might have breast cancer and took steps to find out the truth of the matter. Anyone who has gone through this process knows how much wait time there is and how frightening that can be. While you wait your mind goes through all kinds of scenarios and possibilities and well-meaning friends tell you every horror story they have ever heard or encountered to the end that you are soon terrified beyond all reason and I was no exception.

My saving grace was, that because of Evolution of Self and the research I had done to create it, I realized what the fear was doing to my physicality and was able to stop it. Because your mind and body eavesdrops on each other all of the time and your body creates whatever your mind tells it to. Holding negative thoughts about a situation long enough for your emotions (your driving force) to become involved only makes those fears a reality. I made a conscious decision to choose to see this as my next best thing, thus giving my mind a new emotion to call on.

If I did have the heinous thing I would use my experience to help others in the same situation. If it turned out that I did not have it, I would use my experience to teach this lesson. The second I made that decision and voiced it to my husband, all the fear left me, and I stopped doing damage to myself while I waited. Because I was not living in a state of apprehension and fear my physicality was not creating the chemicals that would eventually make my fears my reality.

As it turned out I didn’t have it but the lesson is a valuable one that I embrace every day. In choosing to embrace what looked like something awful and turn it to my advantage, I was able to choose a better way and so can you.
Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts, 2011, all rights reserved

HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION?

            HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION?

In any given situation you have choices. You can choose to be the victim of the situation, or you can choose to rise above it and make it a learning and growing experience for yourself. Self-pity stops you cold, so decide that the situation is your next best thing. Look for the positive aspects of it and act on them.

I challenge you to truly and objectively look at your situation. Where and what are the positive aspects of it? What of the negative aspects can you turn into positive ones? How can you now benefit from this new viewpoint? If you look at a seemingly “bad” situation as your “next best thing” you will find the “good” in it for you.

Just as slow motion and stop action still photography gives you an opportunity to reevaluate what you thought you saw, so does slowing down and honestly analyze your situation. This reexamining will reveal secrets and clues within the situation that you would otherwise miss. This allows you the opportunity to see the true good in your situation, to change your perception of it and turn it toward your benefit; to make it your next best thing.

So when you feel that your situation is beyond redemption, slow down, reexamine and search out those hidden positives and turn a negative into your next best thing and grow.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved

Don’t Let Life Discourage You

                     Don’t Let Life Discourage You

“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he has had to begin where he was.” (Richard L. Evans)

Chances are one day you decided to change some things in your life. You were where you were and somehow it just didn’t quite feel right, it didn’t fit. It may have been any one of a number of things, a notion that feels wrong now, an old piece of knowledge that you have just found out was incorrect information or, possibly you have found that a way of thinking about some issue or group now seems unworthy of you. Whatever made you wake up and realize that self-improvement was in order is to be applauded.

Changing anything requires you to start somewhere and I suggest that where ever you find yourself is the perfect place for you to begin. The simple fact that you have come to this conclusion is an awesome step for you, for everyone trying to make their lives better.

Start with baby steps, they get better results and as you see progress you will be encouraged to keep going. Self-improvement is always time invested in your most valuable asset, you. Like the instructions when you are on a plane to put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping the person next to you; if you are not in a healthy, whole, balanced place you can’t help anyone else.

Even if you can respect someone for being a mess because you’re a mess too, you don’t have to stay that way. Learn to respect yourself for the right reasons and watch your mess straighten out.

Some of your baby steps might be to think of all the things you feel are important to you; then ask yourself if they are worthy of you? Do they raise your vibrations? Do they move you to grow? Would they be precious to you if they were suddenly gone? If so then enjoy, if not then lose them because when you change how and what you think about, how and what you think about changes.

To get to the good things in life not only do you need to make changes in the way you think and perceive things, you have to let your walls down and take the chance that you might get hurt; this is better than feeling nothing and, as you grow toward your goals of wholeness and betterment, the absence of walls will allow your feelings to become those of joy that all of us want to achieve.

Remember that life, especially a conscious and aware one doesn’t just happen; it requires your participation so participate with joy, empathy and balance of body, mind and spirit. Know too as you work that you are the bridge between where you are now and where you want to be and that the only person who can get you there is you.

I wish you an awesome journey and Bright Blessings. Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE?

                   WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE?

The dictionary tells us that “choice” means;
1 : the act of choosing : SELECTION (finding)
2 : power of choosing : OPTION (you)
3 a : the best part : CREAM b : a person or thing chosen (she)
4 : a number and variety to choose among (a)
5 : care in selecting
6 : a grade of meat between prime and good— of choice : to be preferred

Synonyms; CHOICE, OPTION, ALTERNATIVE, PREFERENCE, SELECTION, ELECTION mean the act or opportunity of choosing or the thing chosen. CHOICE suggests the opportunity or privilege of choosing freely (freedom). OPTION implies a power to choose that is specifically granted or guaranteed (the).

Why is making a choice important? The importance lies in the degree of maturity and enlightenment that is reached when you realize that you have the ability to come from a conscious, aware act that exercises your privilege to take the opportunity to use your innate power to choose how to do anything you desire. The conscious awareness of this ability and the understanding of its’ importance is one of the greatest steps in the positive direction of your growth toward being whole, balanced and closer to the higher Universal vibrations that you are striving for. This is an important action toward taking you power back; of becoming the person that you truly want to be.

Choose love; Choose gratitude; Choose positivity; Choose empathy; Choose caring; Choose truth and honesty; Choose to be generous; Choose integrity; Choose perseverance; Choose actions that are worthy of you; and Choose to evolve.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts, 2010 all rights reserved