PART TWO, FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF

PART TWO, FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF

© Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved

“Your mind is the most marvelous bio-computer ever created. It does not deal with vague ideas; it is activated by specifics.” Denis Waitley

I asked you last time where your power is, who/what is controlling it. Listen to the words you use when you think or talk about what you are holding fear about. Do you say things like “I can’t…”, “I hope…”, “What if…”, “That is horrible…”, “It’s not my fault…” or “That is a problem…”? I tell you now that you are using vocabulary that feeds your fear and destroys your power/strength to attempt to grow. Yes, for you who have taken levels 1 and 2, this goes back to proper self talk. By changing your verbiage, you begin to change your attitude, your focus and your emotions about what you feel you want to do.

Try these words instead; “I won’t…” Won’t implies that you have chosen to use your power not to do something, rather than meekly give in to circumstances beyond your control. Your subconscious hears it as “I’m weak” so you will be. Or as an alternative, try using, “I choose to…” and see/feel the difference.

Try changing ‘hope’ to; know. Hope tells your subconscious that there is a good chance that whatever you want will not manifest; i.e., “I hope I can go home for the holidays”. Now changing the one word, “I know I can go home…” puts your power back into your hands,

“What if’ gives the Universe your permission to walk all over you. It tells your subconscious that you are completely out of control. Because it is a vague and wishy-washy statement, it is also a waste of your energy. Don’t use it at all.

“That is horrible” can be replaced with the thought that whatever it is can be a challenge, and opportunity to help someone or to grow.

The “it’s not my fault” is a cop-out. If it is yours, own it. This is extremely empowering. It makes you the powerful person you want to be, not the victim. If you take responsibility for your life and what goes on in it you have the power to change things for the better.

The change of the word ‘problem’ to the word ‘opportunity’ opens your mindset to one that stretches to embrace the growth that will enable you to become the person you want to become.

As you change to a more powerful vocabulary, your thought processes will follow. This will change how you see yourself, thus changing how others see you, making your self-confidence grow and fear diminish. This will create the ability for you to handle more things that are outside your normal comfort zone and that leads to awesome opportunities for you to enjoy.

Until next week; Bright Blessings. Chessie

HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION?

            HOW DO YOU SEE YOUR SITUATION?

In any given situation you have choices. You can choose to be the victim of the situation, or you can choose to rise above it and make it a learning and growing experience for yourself. Self-pity stops you cold, so decide that the situation is your next best thing. Look for the positive aspects of it and act on them.

I challenge you to truly and objectively look at your situation. Where and what are the positive aspects of it? What of the negative aspects can you turn into positive ones? How can you now benefit from this new viewpoint? If you look at a seemingly “bad” situation as your “next best thing” you will find the “good” in it for you.

Just as slow motion and stop action still photography gives you an opportunity to reevaluate what you thought you saw, so does slowing down and honestly analyze your situation. This reexamining will reveal secrets and clues within the situation that you would otherwise miss. This allows you the opportunity to see the true good in your situation, to change your perception of it and turn it toward your benefit; to make it your next best thing.

So when you feel that your situation is beyond redemption, slow down, reexamine and search out those hidden positives and turn a negative into your next best thing and grow.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved

LOVE AND JUDGMENT WHAT IT MEANS TO YOUR HEALTH AND BALANCE

                      LOVE AND JUDGMENT

            WHAT IT MEANS TO YOUR HEALTH

                             AND BALANCE

What does love mean to you? How do you show it? What is its purpose? How do you acknowledge it? How do you receive it? Now, ask yourself “do I apply these standards to myself? Do I love myself? How do I show myself I love me? Why should I love myself? Why should I acknowledge it?”

Some feel that they must judge others worthy of love and that it is alright to ignore or belittle if the person is found wanting. More to the point, we are our own harshest critics. Our society teaches us that we should not give credence to our own worth, our accomplishments, and that is unworthy information. To judge is not to love; judgment is a controlling emotion/behavior. To treat ourselves (and others) in this way is damaging and dis-ease making. It is poison in your mind-stream, it is self-defeating. It lowers your frequencies to a detrimental level for you and all around you. Once this occurs, you are way out of balance in your body, mind, spirit energies.

To rise beyond judgment allows love to enter your very essence. Love of an unconditional type is the highest of frequencies. By its’ very nature it changes, balances everything that it touches; our hearts, mind-stream, our innate nature. Love of self, spirit and humanity is a healing magic of Divine proportion. It even can change our physical bodies by way of restored DNA. By embracing love in all of its forms, each individual becomes a transmitter of the most powerful electromagnetic frequency ever known, affecting everything and everyone around him.

Try truly loving yourself for one week. Look in the mirror, smile and say, with conviction, “I approve of myself, I am worthy, I am limitless!” say it 10 times twice a day. Do not listen to the little voice that may nag negatively at the back of your mind, tell it to hush because what it is saying to you is wrong (unless of course it is in agreement with your affirmation) and press on, undaunted. After a week notice all the positive changes that are happening in your life. Then keep up the good work and be exponential.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved.

WHAT ARE YOU CREATING? SOME QUESTIONS FOR GROWTH

                    WHAT ARE YOU CREATING?

                 SOME QUESTIONS FOR GROWTH

A positive, focused, conscious aware life does not just happen, you must create it. And that is where Evolution of Self; Journey into Mind, Body, Spirit Balance is set to take you.

Are you grounded? Connected to your source, the one which sustains and supports you? Are you centered? Is your energy system open enough to allow the free flow of Natures energies through you; energies that connect you to your world and the Universe?

Do speak to yourself in a correct, loving and positive manner? Does this include others with whom you come in contact? Do you lift others to their best advantage? Are you empathetic? Do you put your wellbeing first so that you are strong enough to help others? Do accept what you are truly responsible for? Can you keep your cool in an intense situation?

Can you clearly visualize your goals so that you recognize them when you get there? Can you communicate this vision to another? Do you consciously shield yourself from negative input (as best you can)?

Can you/do you surrender all fears to the flow of Universal energy? Can you/do you accept that you and others make mistakes, sometimes grievous ones, and not allow those mistakes to cloud or poison your mind and forgive? Do you/can you accept and forgive your own shortcomings? Do you/can you accept that love is energy and so will always be a part of you and be born again as new loves? Can you/do you accept you as you are by changing for the better what you feel you need to change and genuinely love yourself? Do you/can you accept the cosmic truth ‘that all is one’ and feel connected? Can you/do you let things (material, emotional and spiritual) go because you know that since all is one, nothing and no one is ever lost to you or gone from you?

If you have answered “No” to any of these questions then there is room to work to regain your mind, body, spirit balance.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© 2010 Chessie Roberts all rights reserved

VIBRATE WITH WHAT YOU DESIRE AND WHAT YOU DESIRE WILL VIBRATE WITH YOU

VIBRATE WITH WHAT YOU DESIRE AND WHAT

      YOU DESIRE WILL VIBRATE WITH YOU
   

There is a phenomenon in the field of physics called entrainment. You may have experienced it at a stop light. Have you ever been sitting at a long light and noticed all of the turn signals seem to be blinking in the same rhythm? Or maybe you’ve been in a clock shop and realized all the clocks were ticking in time with each other? I’m sure you have heard that if several women live in close quarters for prolonged periods of time their moon cycles will occur at that same time?

All of these instances are examples of entrainment. This happens when the vibrations of several things mesh and move together in the same rhythm. This is very useful information to have when you consider that the creative ‘stuff’ of the Universe vibrates too. When we desire to manifest something in our lives, we tune our vibrations of our desire so that entrainment with Universal creation happens and your desires will manifest faster and be more in line with what is worthy of you and what you truly want.

Consider this when you feel frustration about something. Where are your vibrations coming from? Are they coming from a feeling of love or fear? Frustration comes from the fear end of the spectrum of emotions so that it is in the low vibration level. Anything born from this level will manifest ugly, unworthy things that create more of what you truly do not want in your life. If, however, you can let your frustration turn to a more love-based feeling, you will find your vibrations rising to a higher level, one more in tune with the Universe and its creation causing better things to come to you.

Wishing you all the wonderful things you deserve. With gratitude, love and Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved

JUST WHAT DO YOU WANT TO HAUL AROUND

JUST WHAT DO YOU WANT TO HAUL AROUND
AND HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU WANT TO WALK THROUGH IT?

I have had an occasion to speak to a group of people who told me that they felt compelled to do some rather nasty things to others because some rather nasty things had been done to them.

OK, let’s talk about that. Use your imagination to take all of the nasty, mean and ugly things that have EVER happened to you and see them as a huge pile of manure. Your pile may be larger or smaller than other persons’, but it is your pile therefore it is the most important for this exercise.

Now you have a few choices. You can choose to haul it around for the rest of your life while it gets larger and smellier hoping someone will ‘fix’ it for you (good luck with that one). Or you can choose to use it as an excuse to be mean to others and that is the first aspect of this question we will discuss today.

Every time you use your pile of manure to be hateful (that word means ‘full of hate’ by the way) this it what you are really doing. You are choosing, with great effort, to pull your pile of manure around in front of you and then you are choosing to walk through it one more time. Each time you choose/decide to do this, you get some on you, making you relive the whole nasty business over and over again. Because of this practice, your life is probably not getting any better, is it? Now ask yourself, is that what you really want, to be stuck in Manureville for the rest of your life? Somehow, I don’t think so or you wouldn’t be here.

So, as the second aspect of our question; what is a good, positive, healthy choice for getting rid of your pile?

I strongly suggest that you choose to go through your pile and get rid of it by using it to

1.) Fertilize your learning (as in what not to do again), 

2.) Deciding what you can choose to forgive and thereby dismiss, (i.e., let it go) and

3.) Then decide what is just not worth your notice or worthy of you so you truly let it go (it wasn’t worth keeping in the first place).

Simple? Yes. Easy? Not really but if your goal is the choice to be whole and balanced it is well worth the effort. I did it; others in the program have done it, so can you. I promise you that when you decide to truly look at your life and choose to begin to raise your vibrations to match the vibrations of the Energy of the Universe, this task will not seem as daunting as it might right now.
So, Bright Blessings and Good Choices, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

HATE IS A 4 LETTER WORD AND HAS NO PLACE WITHIN A POSITIVE PERSONS VOCABULARY

HATE IS A 4 LETTER WORD AND HAS NO PLACE WITHIN A POSITIVE PERSON’S VOCABULARY

“There is not a single instance in history where hate has brought joy to human beings. Hate destroys those who hold it in their minds and bodies. If humanity released all hate, fear, and resentment, then no dictator could ever rise, and we would have peace on earth. Peace on earth can occur only through peace within each of us.” (The Secret Daily Teachings)

 

I hear people say that “h” word all of the time and it hurts my soul to hear it. I found while doing research for Evolution of Self that the mere sound of the word does damage to our bodies. Dr Emoto in his book “The Hidden Messages in Water” explains this phenomenon quite well. I also discovered that calling this feeling into our biology creates free radicals which cause illness.

When I say something to friends about the constant use of this word, they laugh and tell me that it is “just an expression”, that it “doesn’t mean anything” but your subconscious doesn’t know that. It creates the free radicals that that feeling causes and goes on with its other business. I know that people ingest things that are bad for their biology all the time and usually it is a conscious choice, like smoking, drinking, eating foods with unhealthy additives, but why choose one more thing as silly as ‘an expression’ to bring down your body?

I am not sure I understand that. People say that they want to be healthy, they want to be pain free, they want to feel good, but they don’t want to give up the things that are making them ill.

I was at my chiropractor for lower back pain, and we were having a discussion about world matters. I made the offhand comment that “it makes my butt twitch” and before I finished the sentence, my lower back went into a very painful spasm. The Dr. said, “I think I see your problem and maybe you should change your vocabulary.” Your body listens to what your brain is thinking and reacts to it before you even are aware of it. You know, like when you see what looks like a bug or something scary and you react to it before you truly know what it was.

I learned that lesson on the spot and I changed my vocabulary. I don’t use that expression anymore. I made a conscious choice to not call that pain into my biology and I advocate that by consciously choosing to not use the 4 letter “h” word you will make a mental step in the right direction of your goal of wholeness. After all that is what Evolution of Self is about isn’t it? That is what you are working for, right? Balance, wholeness, wellness?

Listen to what you say/think and decide whether it is worthy of you, do your words reflect what you truly want to call into your life? If so, great; if not, then choose to better your situation by improving your vocabulary. Bright Blessings, Chessie

©Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

HOW DO I SLOW DOWN TO LET MY FRIENDS CATCH UP?

    HOW DO I SLOW DOWN TO LET MY FRIENDS

                                   CATCH UP?           

One of the responses that I received to my invitation to ask topic questions was “How do I slow down so that my friends and family can catch up with my growth?”

The short answer is that you don’t. Everyone understands and grows at their own rate. I am sure you have heard the saying that “when the student is ready the teacher will appear”. Your friends and loved ones may have their “Ah-ha” moments at different times than you do. That is OK. You must be yourself and they must be themselves. This is one of those things over which you have no control and that is OK as well.

If you attempt to stunt your growth to accommodate someone else’s schedule, you will find quickly that it feels uncomfortable for you. You may find that you are frustrated, angry or there may be some pain involved. All of these fear-based feelings occur because you are denying yourself who and what you are becoming. Learning is why you are on this path in the first place, right?

Now if you choose to keep this (these people) person in your life, focus on what you love about them rather than what you don’t. If you focus on the negatives and differences, you will find that this is where your discomfort starts.

Focusing on what you love about them will allow your vibrations to continue to rise and spontaneously, theirs will too. Now I’m not telling you to grab their hand and haul them up there with you, the love and the Universe will take care of all of that. If you try, you will be right back at the beginning of the question.

See your growth as an opportunity to share your knowledge and opinions with others while allowing them to share their knowledge and opinions with you. Their opinions and knowledge may be different, but you can still learn from them if you choose to allow yourself to listen.

If your friends are uncomfortable around you then that is their issue, not yours. Your issue is your growth. So…give yourself, your friends and loved one’s space and the freedom to just Be. You will see that it all works out just as it is meant to in the end. It is OK to outgrow people and have them out grow you, but by the same process, you will be growing up toward others, that is how we learn and become what we are to become.

Bright Blessings Chessie
© 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE AND HAPPINESS

     FEAR; IT’S NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF
     WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE

                   AND HAPPINESS?
                 © Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved


Who do you see as responsible for your life and happiness? Your partner? Your children? Perhaps it is your job or boss. Maybe you feel it’s where you live or what you drive. If you said yes to any of these things you should rethink who is in charge. It should be YOU.

Here is the kicker, if you aren’t happy, are you unhappy by your choice? WHAT?? You say my choice?? But I can’t help being _____ fill in the blank. But you can; you can choose to look for another way. Your choice of how you react to the ‘stuff’ going on around you puts you in either the victim role or the power role.

The victim role keeps you paralyzed and feeling that there is no way out. This in turn makes your pain, despair and fear worse. They feed off each other to make you afraid to move. You are suffering over your own suffering.

First ask yourself, “What am I getting out of staying in this situation?” Most of the time you stay because that situation is ‘the demon that you know’ and you are more comfortable not facing your unknown. But I tell you that the anticipation of the unknown is worse than the thing itself.

When you take responsibility for your choices, I don’t mean to beat yourself up with the blame stick, I mean doing the best you can and owning your choices. I mean becoming aware of what you are not taking responsibility for so you can change your behavior toward a more positive direction. I mean looking for and taking advantage of the opportunities that you can find will make your situation better. Moving yourself toward more of what you really want and not tolerating what you aren’t happy with. That is where you take your power back and make the fear diminish.

Try stepping out into your unknown, trusting that you will find firm footing or you will be taught to fly. Find out how amazing your life becomes when you stop expecting someone else to handle your ‘stuff’.

Until next week, Bright Blessings
Chessie

FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF Part 3, Where is Your Comfort Zone?

   3 FEAR IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF Part 3

                        © Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

Where is Your Comfort Zone?

Our comfort zone is the little box we live in where everything is j-u-s-t the way we like it, we are comfortable. Sounds great right? Well, I guess it can be, but we need to watch out because it can keep us from growing, moving, sharing, or creating. To do that, we must (shaky, scary letters here) STEP OUT OF THE ZONE. That is sometimes a very fear-inducing thing to do.

Where are the boundaries of your comfort zone? Do you feel comfortable talking to strangers? Is it easy for you to eat alone in a restaurant? How do you feel about public speaking? How about going into a social situation unescorted? Would you rather hug someone (not family), shake hands or hide in a hole? Does interstate traffic make you wish you were driving a tank instead of your poor defenseless car? Do places of authority scare the starch right out of you?

I understand, there are things outside everyone’s comfort zone. Things that you would rather chew broken glass than face. things that you fear and that is ok. Here is where we talk about changing that. Don’t panic, you don’t have to make a speech on top of a speeding truck on the interstate, baby steps, baby steps.

What I am advocating is just expanding the zone of what is comfortable for you. As you overcome things that make you fearful, your courage to try something new grows. As that happens, you become more and more powerful and fear less.

Let’s break it down. To be able to begin talking to someone you don’t know very well try just asking the time or complementing something about that person. When this is comfortable you can ask questions that require conversation on the part of the other person. Soon you will be able to speak to anyone.

Eating alone in a restaurant is intimidating to a lot of people so know you are not alone. Start small with a fast-food place. Everyone is in a hurry, and you won’t be noticed. Then move up to some place that caters to your neighborhood. Next, try the larger chains, by then you will be able to go anywhere.

Public speaking is the most feared thing out there and I strongly suggest a public speaking club such as Toastmasters. They will walk you right through it with all the support, encouragement and guidance you can ever want.

Get the picture here? Just take one small step until you feel comfortable and then the next. Every time you reach and stretch, you grow closer to handling your fears in a powerful, productive and positive way.

Until next week, Bright Blessings. Chessie

PART TWO, FEAR, IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF

                          

                        PART TWO, FEAR

             IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF
                     © Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved


“Your mind is the most marvelous bio-computer ever created. It does not deal with vague ideas; it is activated by specifics.”  Denis Waitley

I asked you last time where your power is, who/what is controlling it. Listen to the words you use when you think or talk about what you are holding fear about. Do you say things like “I can’t…”, “I hope…”, “What if…”, “That is horrible…”, “It’s not my fault…” or “That is a problem…”? I tell you now that you are using vocabulary that feeds your fear and destroys your power/strength to attempt to grow.

Yes, for those of you who have taken levels 1 and 2, this goes back to proper self-talk. By changing your verbiage, you begin to change your attitude, your focus and your emotions about what you feel you want to do.

Try these words instead; forget “I won’t…”  Because won’t implies that you have chosen to use your power not to do something, rather than meekly give in to circumstances beyond your control. Your subconscious hears it as “I’m weak” so you will be. As an alternative, try using, “I choose to…” and see/feel the difference.

Try changing ‘hope’ to; know. Hope tells your subconscious that there is a good chance that whatever you want will not manifest, i.e., “I hope I can go home for the holidays”. Now changing the one word, “I know I can go home…” puts your power back into your hands.

“What if’ gives the Universe your permission to walk all over you. It tells your subconscious that you are completely out of control. Because it is a vague and wishy-washy statement, it is also a waste of your energy. Don’t use it at all.

“That is horrible” can be replaced with the thought that whatever it is can be a challenge, and opportunity to help someone or to grow.

The “it’s not my fault” is a cop-out. If it is yours, own it. This is extremely empowering. It makes you the powerful person you want to be, not the victim. If you take responsibility for your life and what goes on in it you have the power to change things for the better.

The change of the word ‘problem’ to the word ‘opportunity’ opens your mindset to one that stretches to embrace the growth that will enable you to become the person you want to become.

You can also get great results by changing the words fear, scared, anxious or nervous to words like excitement, anticipation, and the phrase ‘looking forward to’. These changes take a while to penetrate but are well worth the work.

As you change to a more powerful vocabulary, your thought processes will follow. This will change how you see yourself, thus changing how others see you, making your self-confidence grow and fear diminish. This will create the ability for you to handle more things that are outside your normal comfort zone and that leads to awesome opportunities for you to enjoy.

Until next week; Bright Blessings. Chessie