PART TWO, FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF

PART TWO, FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF

© Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved

“Your mind is the most marvelous bio-computer ever created. It does not deal with vague ideas; it is activated by specifics.” Denis Waitley

I asked you last time where your power is, who/what is controlling it. Listen to the words you use when you think or talk about what you are holding fear about. Do you say things like “I can’t…”, “I hope…”, “What if…”, “That is horrible…”, “It’s not my fault…” or “That is a problem…”? I tell you now that you are using vocabulary that feeds your fear and destroys your power/strength to attempt to grow. Yes, for you who have taken levels 1 and 2, this goes back to proper self talk. By changing your verbiage, you begin to change your attitude, your focus and your emotions about what you feel you want to do.

Try these words instead; “I won’t…” Won’t implies that you have chosen to use your power not to do something, rather than meekly give in to circumstances beyond your control. Your subconscious hears it as “I’m weak” so you will be. Or as an alternative, try using, “I choose to…” and see/feel the difference.

Try changing ‘hope’ to; know. Hope tells your subconscious that there is a good chance that whatever you want will not manifest; i.e., “I hope I can go home for the holidays”. Now changing the one word, “I know I can go home…” puts your power back into your hands,

“What if’ gives the Universe your permission to walk all over you. It tells your subconscious that you are completely out of control. Because it is a vague and wishy-washy statement, it is also a waste of your energy. Don’t use it at all.

“That is horrible” can be replaced with the thought that whatever it is can be a challenge, and opportunity to help someone or to grow.

The “it’s not my fault” is a cop-out. If it is yours, own it. This is extremely empowering. It makes you the powerful person you want to be, not the victim. If you take responsibility for your life and what goes on in it you have the power to change things for the better.

The change of the word ‘problem’ to the word ‘opportunity’ opens your mindset to one that stretches to embrace the growth that will enable you to become the person you want to become.

As you change to a more powerful vocabulary, your thought processes will follow. This will change how you see yourself, thus changing how others see you, making your self-confidence grow and fear diminish. This will create the ability for you to handle more things that are outside your normal comfort zone and that leads to awesome opportunities for you to enjoy.

Until next week; Bright Blessings. Chessie

WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM THIS? IT IS YOUR NEXT BEST THING!

       WHAT DID YOU LEARN                      FROM THIS?

         WHAT IS YOUR NEXT BEST THING?

                                         © Chessie Roberts 2012, all rights reserved

Cancer. Oh My God, you might have cancer! FEAR! ANXIETY! STRESS! How will you tell the family? Wait! Stop! You don't know anything definite yet, you need to wait for the Dr to call you back. Fear! The fear is overwhelming, you can't breathe, you can't think, you can't feel anything but the crippling fear. What are you going to do?

A few years ago this was my life. The waiting was awful, I thought they would never call. I also knew that my habitual thoughts would strongly impact my condition and it's outcome and so I MUST STOP the fear. Stop the thought process that was creating it so the chemicals it was producing would stop. I needed calming, healing chemicals, not the other ones.

So here it is, a big scary ugly thing on your path and you have to walk it alone. You may have support around you but what is going on in your head is all you, what do you do? This is what I did and why it worked.

I decided that if it was the dreaded disease, it was just my next “best thing” and, if I didn't have it. It was also just my next “best thing”. Once I made that decision, the fear diminished drastically and soon subsided all together.. I know, you think I'm nuts but here is how it works and why it is a good idea.

Your body and mind eavesdrop on each other all the time. They use things called neuropeptides to do this. Neuropeptides are small protein-like molecules used by your neurons to communicate with each  other. When you think a thought, these little communication devises jump into action and broadcast the thought out to your entire body. For instance, have you ever seen a thing you thought was dangerous and before you realized it you were running away from it? When you calmed down and went back to look closer you found it was a just a shadow or a fuzzy or the garden hose? That is the speed and intensity this communication has. Now, not only is it fast but other things are going on at the same time. Because of you thought “yikes a snake!” the chemicals that amp you up to run for safety shoot out in just the right dose to rapidly move you from point A to point B. They affect your heart, breathing muscles  and blood flow. Your eyes will show more white and you may let out a yelp of fear. All of this is caused by the thought that there is a snake. When you realize that is only the garden hose, everything is reversed.

Let's face it fear is fear, snake or cancer. When you see the thing as big and ugly and threatening, you body sends the chemicals to feed that thought, that belief and, sure enough that is what happens. When you can calm that down and send the chemicals that will make it smaller and less frightening, that is what you will get.  By detaching from the outcome of the testing, and not allowing fear to drive my thoughts, I was able to create a calmer, more healthy mind-stream.

The detachment I am talking about doesn't mean that you don't care, it just deciding where you want your thoughts and energies to go, what you want them to nourish. You CHOOSE what you want to feed, the fear or the wellness. By seeing your situation, any situation as your 'next best thing' you create a position that puts you into a positive oriented mind set that will allow your best outcome no matter what. Feed your body's positivity and it will flourish. The chemicals that bring assistance and strength to you will flood your system, thereby raising you above the fear line and into a more healing place from which to work.  Bright Blessings, Chessie

“May the entire Universe be filled with Peace and Joy, Love and Light. May the light of Truth overcome all darkness! Victory to that Light! Jai!”

ONE OF OUR MOST ENDURING LESSONS WE LEARN IN KINDERGARTEN

ONE OF OUR MOST ENDURING LESSONS WE LEARN IN KINDERGARTEN

 

“Come on Honey, it's time to go to Big Boy/Girl school.”

“I don't want to go! I want to stay home with you!”

“Come on sweetheart you will have a good time and meet all kinds of new friends and play new games! You'll love it!!”

Sullenly, “OK.”

 

AT THE SCHOOL:

 

“Here we are, hop put and let’s meet your teacher.”

The water works start and then the screaming, “NNNNNOOOO! MMMOOOMMMYYY! You are terrified of the unknown and don't want your comfort, your known quantity to leave.

 

The teacher gently but firmly takes you back into the school while Mom quickly walks away with a big smile and promises to come back after school is over.

 

As you become interested and then engrossed in the day’s lessons and play, Mommy fades to the back of your mind and you begin having a wonderful time. Soon the bell rings and Teacher says, “It's time to go home.” and Mommy appears at the door.

 

The waterworks start in reverse, this time not from fear but frustration. The fear you felt earlier has been replaced by fun and new things, you will learn quickly the coming and going of school and you move on.

 

This is a conversation I had with a friend of mine several mornings ago.

 

Friend: “Why do we hang onto the very things we know we must let go of?”

 

Me; “Comfort zone stuff. We get comfortable with the situation and change is scary. Knowing something and acting on that knowledge are entirely two different things,

F: “So I guess we will ultimately change when the push to change becomes less uncomfortable than the draw of staying the same?

M; “Bingo! When we can “act in” and “do courage”, then we grow. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway.”

F; “Excellent point! It is a choice after all.”

M: “It is and always has been a choice.”

F; “It's the kindergarten thing again then Hun?”

M; “Yes, who knew THAT would follow us so far?”

F; “It is interesting how we speak(think) our lives into existence! ...When we see that...oh boy! Life is getting fun!”

And there it is, The Kindergarten Thing. It isn't just an event in our lives, It is something that we go through over and over again as we live our lives. Elementary school, entering high school, dating, doctors/dentist appointments, speeches, marriage/divorce, new jobs, childbirth, a death in the family and, maybe the most frightening of all spiritual growth. We face changes all of our lives. Most of the time we breeze right through them but there are the ones that take us right back to kindergarten.

The more personal these things are the more we resist them and hang onto the very thing(s) we KNOW we need to let go of. The fear of the unknown will sometimes stop us cold. Now here is the problem with that; most will stay where they are not happy and complain, worry and internalize their fear and frustration, putting themselves in the roll of “victim”. All the while blaming the boss or the situation when all they have to do is decide to make a change for the better. While they are feeling stuck and spinning themselves up into a frenzy over their “bad luck” and being the victim, they are making themselves sick. Then, when their bodies succumb to the eternal stuff that they are CHOOSING to put themselves through they can cry victim once again because they are now very sick. Here is where you face the choice to stay feeling sorry for yourself or deciding you don't want to play anymore.

 

When you face your fear of change and step out in courage and trust that you can help yourself, your life begins to change in wonderful and unexpected ways. The next time you have to go back to kindergarten remember this and you will do well. Bright Blessings and Happy First Day of School!

 

© Chessie Roberts 2011 all rights reserved

 

Life Lessons, Choices, Destiny, Karma and the Law of Attraction

                Life Lessons, Choices, Destiny, Karma

                          and the Law of Attraction

“Destiny is what we make of it, Karma is how we shape it and Law of Attraction is a tool we can use to achieve the end that we want.” (TR)

Adversity, Karma, luck, good or bad; whatever you want to call it is something that we all live with. Because we have choices at every crossroads, we can choose to be victimized by it or choose to use it for what it actually is, a life lesson from which to grow.

By choosing to turn your mind-set toward the positive you can turn any situation around, change a negative into a positive. By looking at each situation as your ‘next best thing’ you create a freeing and empowering thought process. This is the choice that allows you to take your own power back from any situation that seems to be “adversity or bad luck”. By feeling an emotion of a positive nature, you incorporate the law of attraction to drive manifestation that will create what you want. You create a fertile area of positivity that allows your new mind-set to flourish.

I have taught this lesson for many years now and this is how I learned it. Some time ago I thought I might have breast cancer and took steps to find out the truth of the matter. Anyone who has gone through this process knows how much wait time there is and how frightening that can be. While you wait your mind goes through all kinds of scenarios and possibilities and well-meaning friends tell you every horror story they have ever heard or encountered to the end that you are soon terrified beyond all reason and I was no exception.

My saving grace was, that because of Evolution of Self and the research I had done to create it, I realized what the fear was doing to my physicality and was able to stop it. Because your mind and body eavesdrops on each other all of the time and your body creates whatever your mind tells it to. Holding negative thoughts about a situation long enough for your emotions (your driving force) to become involved only makes those fears a reality. I made a conscious decision to choose to see this as my next best thing, thus giving my mind a new emotion to call on.

If I did have the heinous thing I would use my experience to help others in the same situation. If it turned out that I did not have it, I would use my experience to teach this lesson. The second I made that decision and voiced it to my husband, all the fear left me, and I stopped doing damage to myself while I waited. Because I was not living in a state of apprehension and fear my physicality was not creating the chemicals that would eventually make my fears my reality.

As it turned out I didn’t have it but the lesson is a valuable one that I embrace every day. In choosing to embrace what looked like something awful and turn it to my advantage, I was able to choose a better way and so can you.
Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts, 2011, all rights reserved

Projecting Abundance and Gratitude Above the Fear Line

              Projecting Abundance and Gratitude

                        Above the Fear Line

“Because the Universe reflects back to you at the level which you are able to accept, appreciate what you have and project abundance in your emotions, self-talk, your thoughts, and visualization. Remember that emotion is energy in motion and that is what drives all manifestation.” C. S. Roberts

I have had a series of Aha moments over the past few months. Moments that have brought the truth of something I said a while ago (the above quote) and made this concept crystal clear.

Emotions fall into two categories, love or fear. Any emotion that is at or below the ‘fear line’ will drag you down into the depths of stagnation and inactivity. Any emotion above that line will push you up toward happiness, joy and finally into manifestation.

I had, on one level, believed and understood what I was saying but, on a deeper level was missing an important point. As I have stated on many occasions I am, as we all are, works in progress so yay for finally getting it. The whole point is that down in that part of you where only you go, where the tough questions are asked and answered is where the acceptance of this statement needs to truly and gratefully happen. This is where you need to determine that you are no longer ruled by anything at or below the ‘fear line’. Only then will your ‘emotional energy engine’ crank into life and drive the upward motion that will create manifestation.

If you can honestly accept everything you have as a good thing and gratefully rejoice in your abundance with your entire being, you will touch this place within and begin to manifest without. EXAMPLE: your furnace breaks on the coldest day of the year and it is a holiday and guests are coming; how do you react? Let’s face it that would be very upsetting on the surface of things but, since you know about emotions and manifestation, you are truly grateful for the fact that your oven works, that you have space heaters and blankets and that you know that your guests will understand and be just fine with it. You celebrate in joy, love and gratitude. You invite others to celebrate with the same attitude and, by your every thought, emotion and deed you turn the unfortunate happening into an exercise of gratitude for abundance and share that outlook with those around you, thus lifting you and everyone else to a higher vibration. In return you manifest the money you need to fix the furnace, your holiday was exceptional, you taught a valuable lesson without realizing it and your life stays above the ‘fear line’.

I invite you to examine your life as you start this new beginning in 2011 to find your abundance, joy and gratitude. Once you do that share that attitude with as many people as you can and watch your manifestations soar.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all rights reserved

WHAT ARE YOU CREATING? SOME QUESTIONS FOR GROWTH

                    WHAT ARE YOU CREATING?

                 SOME QUESTIONS FOR GROWTH

A positive, focused, conscious aware life does not just happen, you must create it. And that is where Evolution of Self; Journey into Mind, Body, Spirit Balance is set to take you.

Are you grounded? Connected to your source, the one which sustains and supports you? Are you centered? Is your energy system open enough to allow the free flow of Natures energies through you; energies that connect you to your world and the Universe?

Do speak to yourself in a correct, loving and positive manner? Does this include others with whom you come in contact? Do you lift others to their best advantage? Are you empathetic? Do you put your wellbeing first so that you are strong enough to help others? Do accept what you are truly responsible for? Can you keep your cool in an intense situation?

Can you clearly visualize your goals so that you recognize them when you get there? Can you communicate this vision to another? Do you consciously shield yourself from negative input (as best you can)?

Can you/do you surrender all fears to the flow of Universal energy? Can you/do you accept that you and others make mistakes, sometimes grievous ones, and not allow those mistakes to cloud or poison your mind and forgive? Do you/can you accept and forgive your own shortcomings? Do you/can you accept that love is energy and so will always be a part of you and be born again as new loves? Can you/do you accept you as you are by changing for the better what you feel you need to change and genuinely love yourself? Do you/can you accept the cosmic truth ‘that all is one’ and feel connected? Can you/do you let things (material, emotional and spiritual) go because you know that since all is one, nothing and no one is ever lost to you or gone from you?

If you have answered “No” to any of these questions then there is room to work to regain your mind, body, spirit balance.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

© 2010 Chessie Roberts all rights reserved

YOUR ACTIONS AND THEIR RIPPLE EFFECT

  YOUR ACTIONS AND THEIR RIPPLE EFFECT

                © Chessie Roberts 2010 all right reserved

This is for everyone but especially for those people you may know who are convinced that they know ever so much more than any adult on the planet. You may pick up a thing or two yourself.

Have you ever thrown a pebble into a still water pond? Did you notice how far the ripples spread? What you may not see is how far they spread and exactly what they move that is floating on the surface, leaves, bugs, grass, anything growing up through the water.

Let’s think about what happens when these ripples that you have chosen to cause hit the shore of the pond. They bounce back and move toward the center of the disturbance. This reversed movement will again move everything on the waters’ surface.

Lets’ think of the ponds surface as your life and the pebble as the action that you choose to take in any given situation. The “stuff” in/on the water is now the people with whom you interact. Ready? Here we go. We will discuss other people’s pebbles at the end of this.

You get angry about something and decide to leave home (you’ll show them!!!). Of course, since you’re angry, you don’t plan well and don’t think it through well. You leave things behind and you don’t (at this time) care where you will go, what you will do when you get there nor how you will support yourself. All of this will come to you on the back-ripple side of things. To make your escape you involve your friends. They mean well but they don’t understand the ripples ether.

Now, your family finds out and gosh, they are upset!! (ah ha, you got their attention). They have to find you, so they also involve every one you know. If that doesn’t work the police get in on things (did you know that there are and will be charges, many charges filed by the police when you do this?) All manner of things fall into place, nationwide alerts go out, street cops looking for you, pictures of you are everywhere, friends (some you will know, some you may not know) and neighbors will be looking for you. Then you have the bad guys who are ALWAYS looking for an easy mark and then, I know you won’t see them coming. As a runaway, cold hungry, no back up, no support (here come those back ripples I spoke of) you are that easy mark.

As if that wasn’t enough, there are others throwing their pebbles into the pond. Those actions have their own ripple patterns, and they will interfere with the ripples of others as well as yours. This can quickly become an oogy mess. Do you have the picture? The point of this whole thing is to show you that everything you choose to do will affect everyone around you to some degree. A lot of those degrees you may not ever be aware of, and some will come back to smack you in the face. The point of this is, pay attention and keep your mind with you at all times. OK?

For the more positive and evolved of you out there, this is also the case with the good actions. Be aware that some of the ripples counteract other ripples (like people praying for different outcomes to the same situation) and some enhance them (that is why many praying for a single outcome works so powerfully). If you know someone that you may be able to help with this please feel free to pass it on.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

HOW DO I SLOW DOWN TO LET MY FRIENDS CATCH UP?

    HOW DO I SLOW DOWN TO LET MY FRIENDS

                                   CATCH UP?           

One of the responses that I received to my invitation to ask topic questions was “How do I slow down so that my friends and family can catch up with my growth?”

The short answer is that you don’t. Everyone understands and grows at their own rate. I am sure you have heard the saying that “when the student is ready the teacher will appear”. Your friends and loved ones may have their “Ah-ha” moments at different times than you do. That is OK. You must be yourself and they must be themselves. This is one of those things over which you have no control and that is OK as well.

If you attempt to stunt your growth to accommodate someone else’s schedule, you will find quickly that it feels uncomfortable for you. You may find that you are frustrated, angry or there may be some pain involved. All of these fear-based feelings occur because you are denying yourself who and what you are becoming. Learning is why you are on this path in the first place, right?

Now if you choose to keep this (these people) person in your life, focus on what you love about them rather than what you don’t. If you focus on the negatives and differences, you will find that this is where your discomfort starts.

Focusing on what you love about them will allow your vibrations to continue to rise and spontaneously, theirs will too. Now I’m not telling you to grab their hand and haul them up there with you, the love and the Universe will take care of all of that. If you try, you will be right back at the beginning of the question.

See your growth as an opportunity to share your knowledge and opinions with others while allowing them to share their knowledge and opinions with you. Their opinions and knowledge may be different, but you can still learn from them if you choose to allow yourself to listen.

If your friends are uncomfortable around you then that is their issue, not yours. Your issue is your growth. So…give yourself, your friends and loved one’s space and the freedom to just Be. You will see that it all works out just as it is meant to in the end. It is OK to outgrow people and have them out grow you, but by the same process, you will be growing up toward others, that is how we learn and become what we are to become.

Bright Blessings Chessie
© 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE AND HAPPINESS

     FEAR; IT’S NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF
     WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE

                   AND HAPPINESS?
                 © Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved


Who do you see as responsible for your life and happiness? Your partner? Your children? Perhaps it is your job or boss. Maybe you feel it’s where you live or what you drive. If you said yes to any of these things you should rethink who is in charge. It should be YOU.

Here is the kicker, if you aren’t happy, are you unhappy by your choice? WHAT?? You say my choice?? But I can’t help being _____ fill in the blank. But you can; you can choose to look for another way. Your choice of how you react to the ‘stuff’ going on around you puts you in either the victim role or the power role.

The victim role keeps you paralyzed and feeling that there is no way out. This in turn makes your pain, despair and fear worse. They feed off each other to make you afraid to move. You are suffering over your own suffering.

First ask yourself, “What am I getting out of staying in this situation?” Most of the time you stay because that situation is ‘the demon that you know’ and you are more comfortable not facing your unknown. But I tell you that the anticipation of the unknown is worse than the thing itself.

When you take responsibility for your choices, I don’t mean to beat yourself up with the blame stick, I mean doing the best you can and owning your choices. I mean becoming aware of what you are not taking responsibility for so you can change your behavior toward a more positive direction. I mean looking for and taking advantage of the opportunities that you can find will make your situation better. Moving yourself toward more of what you really want and not tolerating what you aren’t happy with. That is where you take your power back and make the fear diminish.

Try stepping out into your unknown, trusting that you will find firm footing or you will be taught to fly. Find out how amazing your life becomes when you stop expecting someone else to handle your ‘stuff’.

Until next week, Bright Blessings
Chessie

FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF Part 3, Where is Your Comfort Zone?

   3 FEAR IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF Part 3

                        © Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

Where is Your Comfort Zone?

Our comfort zone is the little box we live in where everything is j-u-s-t the way we like it, we are comfortable. Sounds great right? Well, I guess it can be, but we need to watch out because it can keep us from growing, moving, sharing, or creating. To do that, we must (shaky, scary letters here) STEP OUT OF THE ZONE. That is sometimes a very fear-inducing thing to do.

Where are the boundaries of your comfort zone? Do you feel comfortable talking to strangers? Is it easy for you to eat alone in a restaurant? How do you feel about public speaking? How about going into a social situation unescorted? Would you rather hug someone (not family), shake hands or hide in a hole? Does interstate traffic make you wish you were driving a tank instead of your poor defenseless car? Do places of authority scare the starch right out of you?

I understand, there are things outside everyone’s comfort zone. Things that you would rather chew broken glass than face. things that you fear and that is ok. Here is where we talk about changing that. Don’t panic, you don’t have to make a speech on top of a speeding truck on the interstate, baby steps, baby steps.

What I am advocating is just expanding the zone of what is comfortable for you. As you overcome things that make you fearful, your courage to try something new grows. As that happens, you become more and more powerful and fear less.

Let’s break it down. To be able to begin talking to someone you don’t know very well try just asking the time or complementing something about that person. When this is comfortable you can ask questions that require conversation on the part of the other person. Soon you will be able to speak to anyone.

Eating alone in a restaurant is intimidating to a lot of people so know you are not alone. Start small with a fast-food place. Everyone is in a hurry, and you won’t be noticed. Then move up to some place that caters to your neighborhood. Next, try the larger chains, by then you will be able to go anywhere.

Public speaking is the most feared thing out there and I strongly suggest a public speaking club such as Toastmasters. They will walk you right through it with all the support, encouragement and guidance you can ever want.

Get the picture here? Just take one small step until you feel comfortable and then the next. Every time you reach and stretch, you grow closer to handling your fears in a powerful, productive and positive way.

Until next week, Bright Blessings. Chessie

PART TWO, FEAR, IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF

                          

                        PART TWO, FEAR

             IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF
                     © Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved


“Your mind is the most marvelous bio-computer ever created. It does not deal with vague ideas; it is activated by specifics.”  Denis Waitley

I asked you last time where your power is, who/what is controlling it. Listen to the words you use when you think or talk about what you are holding fear about. Do you say things like “I can’t…”, “I hope…”, “What if…”, “That is horrible…”, “It’s not my fault…” or “That is a problem…”? I tell you now that you are using vocabulary that feeds your fear and destroys your power/strength to attempt to grow.

Yes, for those of you who have taken levels 1 and 2, this goes back to proper self-talk. By changing your verbiage, you begin to change your attitude, your focus and your emotions about what you feel you want to do.

Try these words instead; forget “I won’t…”  Because won’t implies that you have chosen to use your power not to do something, rather than meekly give in to circumstances beyond your control. Your subconscious hears it as “I’m weak” so you will be. As an alternative, try using, “I choose to…” and see/feel the difference.

Try changing ‘hope’ to; know. Hope tells your subconscious that there is a good chance that whatever you want will not manifest, i.e., “I hope I can go home for the holidays”. Now changing the one word, “I know I can go home…” puts your power back into your hands.

“What if’ gives the Universe your permission to walk all over you. It tells your subconscious that you are completely out of control. Because it is a vague and wishy-washy statement, it is also a waste of your energy. Don’t use it at all.

“That is horrible” can be replaced with the thought that whatever it is can be a challenge, and opportunity to help someone or to grow.

The “it’s not my fault” is a cop-out. If it is yours, own it. This is extremely empowering. It makes you the powerful person you want to be, not the victim. If you take responsibility for your life and what goes on in it you have the power to change things for the better.

The change of the word ‘problem’ to the word ‘opportunity’ opens your mindset to one that stretches to embrace the growth that will enable you to become the person you want to become.

You can also get great results by changing the words fear, scared, anxious or nervous to words like excitement, anticipation, and the phrase ‘looking forward to’. These changes take a while to penetrate but are well worth the work.

As you change to a more powerful vocabulary, your thought processes will follow. This will change how you see yourself, thus changing how others see you, making your self-confidence grow and fear diminish. This will create the ability for you to handle more things that are outside your normal comfort zone and that leads to awesome opportunities for you to enjoy.

Until next week; Bright Blessings. Chessie

FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF PART ONE

    

       FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF

                      © Chessie Roberts 2010 All rights reserved

Fear is a learned emotion. We are taught to fear falling, eating poison, walking out into traffic, getting into cars with strangers… things like that. And those fears are OK to have. They serve a purpose and have their place in our lives. For most of us these ‘fears’ become common sense as we mature and learn who to cope with the world around us. Still, there are those stubborn, irrational fears that make no sense to us or anyone else and we don’t understand why we have them or where they came from, and they are OK too. That is as long as they don’t cripple you or stop your forward growth.

Here is a flash for you; as long as you grow, you will face fears. Yep, you heard me, but most of the time it isn’t the even, action or circumstance that has you nibbling at your nails, it is the anticipation of doing something that is out of your comfort zone and guess what? Everyone has to face this at one time or another, not just you.

In her book, “Feel The Fear and Do it Anyway” Susan Jefferies, PH.D. tells us that there are 5 truths about fear:
1) The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow (where have you read that before? This is me asking you)
2) The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go do it.
3) The only way to feel better about myself is to go out and do it. (Are you starting to see a pattern here? That is me asking again.)
4) Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, (pay attention here this is life changing) SO IS EVERYONE ELSE. (Didn’t see that one coming did you?)
5) Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.

So to follow that thinking, if it happens to everyone anytime they encounter something new and they do whatever it is anyway then we need to admit to ourselves that fear is not the real problem.

 Just for now I ask you to consider, where does your power lie? Is it held by the fear of what you don’t know, or by what you think you know? Maybe it is held by what you feel might happen if you do this or that, or maybe if you don’t do whatever it is. Think about it, leave your thoughts if you would like and we will talk more about this fascinating subject next week.

Bright Blessings, Chessie