THE TWO MOST POWERFUL WORDS

THE TWO MOST POWERFUL WORDS IN THE LANGUAGE
©Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved

Do you find yourself becoming argumentative and defensive over the slightest thing? Does it seem to you that others are not getting with your program? Could it be that you are attempting to exercise control over something you can’t or should not be controlling?

If these issues are in your life, you need to learn about the two most powerful words in any language, “Let go.” I f you will ask yourself a few questions you will see very quickly how and where to use these wonderful words.

When you are pressing a point ask if the point is truly important. Will it be important in ten minutes? How about one month? A Year? If the subject is so trivial as to be lost in the next ten minutes, why waste time, energy, and frustration on it in the first place? Let it go. If in a months time the point is not something worth remembering, then why pursue it? See how that works?

Secondly ask yourself why it is important to you to be the ‘winner’ of this particular argument/difference of opinion? Is the subject of the argument important enough to agree to disagree? If not, it is not important enough to argue about in the first place. Remember that everyone has an opinion and rarely are two just alike and that is ok but to have to be correct all of the time about everything (no matter how trivial) sais that there deeper issues of control that need to occupying you time.

As you learn how to let go of the small things and be OK with that, the larger things will be easier to let go of as well. Letting go will de-clutter your life and make the more important things (those truly important) clearer so that you can take care of them in a positive and balanced way.
Bright Blessings, Chessie

FOCUSED INTENT AND WHAT IT MEANS TO YOU

FOCUSED INTENT

 AND 

WHAT IT MEANS TO YOU

What exactly is focused intent and how do you use it. Funny thing is that you use it every day. When you leave your house to go somewhere do you get in your car and then sit there until your destination appears? No, you have a plan, a map in your mind of where you are going and how you plan to get there right? When you dress in the morning do you sit on the bed and wait for your clothes to fly out of the drawer and closet and cover you? No, you make decisions and choices, you focus your intent to decide what to wear.

Focused intent is useful in anything you do. It is actually goal setting. You decide to perform an action and then do each step that is required to get your desired outcome. Take cleaning your teeth for instance. You decide that it is time to perform this act of hygiene. Step one you go to where you keep your toothbrush and its accompanying paraphernalia. Step two, you choose the brush that is “yours”. Step three, you apply your choice of dentifrice, and you begin to brush your teeth. You may have a cup for rinse water, you may cup the water in your hand, but the point is that you have a plan one that has become a a routine for you so that by now you don't have to think it through every time, but it is, in fact, focused intent. See how it works?

So why do you panic when someone suggests that you set goals for yourself? All they are is a ladder to climb in order to reach that thing you want that is, at the beginning, out of your reach. If you decide that you would like to be your own boss, look into the steps it takes and set goals that will allow you to reach that goal. You did it when you were a baby, a child, learning to walk, talk, read, think on your own and every other thing you now know how to do and take for granted, why do you feel you can't do it now?

As you take and internalize the classes that Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance provides, you are setting yourself up to stand on your current information so that you can reach the height of the next piece of information. As you rise through the classes with a focused intent, you accomplish them in one way and are then able to transfer that understanding and knowledge to be used in other ways that will allow you to climb your ladder higher and faster than you ever thought possible.

Your focused intent to better your understanding of YOU will serve you well throughout the rest of your life. It will give you an unprecedented view of exactly what you CAN do, what you CAN be if you chose to allow yourself to focus, learn and grow. Bright Blessings, Love Light and Laughter, Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2012, all rights reserved

LIVING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE

         

               LIVING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE

“The conditioned mind is very slick. The mind's job is to protect you and keep you in your comfort zone. That's why many people miss out on opportunity because they have been conditioned to say no.

“Get out of your conditioned mind and expand your potential!” (Barry Tatum)

My friend, Barry Tatum, made this comment the other day and it got me thinking about how deeply we do confine ourselves with this very concept.

We do it in all of our existence; our body, our mind and our spirit, all to our detriment. Just like Barry said, this confinement causes us to miss out on opportunities simply due to subconscious conditioning, most of which happened so long ago that it is outmoded and unworthy of us, but we settle for it because we think we’re supposed to. Anyone who has gone through the Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance experience knows that this is a big part of the program, letting go of what no longer serves you. By stepping out of your comfort zone and embracing your ‘new’, your ‘now’, your ‘worthiness’ and investigating your new potential and expanding on it you will discover things you never thought possible.

Comfort is something that all of us strive for but it can be a trap, like the one in the quote above, it keeps us stagnant, not growing. Because we feel that our current circumstance is comfortable because it is what we’re used to, we stay where we are. Now here is the kicker, just because we happen to be in what we feel is a comfort zone, rarely are we truly happy there. The abused spouse, the poor, the hungry, the person who dislikes their job, the person who feels they want to move from where they are. All of these people may feel that they are comfortable (only because they know what expect) but they are most certainly not happy.

The human condition is to reach out and up, to attempt to better ones self and if this forward movement is not happening, there is discontentment, a feeling of failure, loss of control, the feeling of defeat and no way out. The human condition is also sometimes one of blaming others or circumstances in order to make things too hard to get away from. Being a victim is the easy way, the comfortable way. BUT these actions and thoughts are not the way to grow and embrace your potential.

Learning to stand in one’s own power, to own one’s actions and choices, to see solutions rather than problems, and to seek knowledge that will drive one’s dreams is to “get out of your conditioned mind and expand your potential!” this is where you will find true happiness and accomplishment.

Add to all of the above; learn to like yourself and those around you. Laugh; be so grateful and happy with what you already have that others begin to ask you why you are so happy, what your secret is. By that you will know that you are achieving something that you can be proud of and share, you are growing, expanding and actively reaching for your potential. Setting goals for yourself and achieving them reconditions your mind and gives you unlimited room for expanding your potential. I challenge you to evaluate your gifts and reevaluate where you are vs where you truly want to be and create positive, loving and attainable goals for yourself. As you reach one, set the next one and so on. One day you will look around you and be amazed at what you have accomplished for yourself and others.

I wish you expansion, opportunity, great potential, gratitude and love. Bright Blessings, C. S. Roberts

© Chessie Roberts 2011, all right reserved

WHERE IS YOUR FOCUS?

                WHERE IS YOUR FOCUS?

When you contemplate your life and where it is now and where it is going, where is your focus? Are you looking at what you have or what you don’t have? What are you miserable about or what are you grateful for? Where have you been or where are you going? What do you truly want or what you think you should want? Are you concerned about what others think you should be doing or are you focused on what you truly want to be doing?

In short are you living your life or one that others have told you that you should be living? If you are not happy in your life, what are you doing to change it? Do you know how to change?

Let’s talk about your mind-stream for a moment. Your mind-stream is what I call your regular or constant thought track. If you are in the habit of thinking about what you don’t want, like, feel etc. what you are actually doing is calling all of that into your life, especially if you feel any emotion about these thoughts. The Universe hears/feels your negative, hurtful and ugly vibrations of “don’t/can’t have” and answers, “OK, you’ve got it.”

Let’s turn that around to a better way. Decide what you truly want and get emotional about that. The Universe will hear/feel your raised, positive, loving vibrations and answers, “OK, you’ve got it.”

OK now ask yourself which of these is better for, and more worthy of you? Do you want to lower your life’s vibrations and wallow in victim think? Or would you rather raise your vibrations to meet those of the Universe and become the happy, successful “I CAN” that you were meant to be? As always, the choice is yours and up to you.

I wish you best, worthy, balanced choices and bright blessings Chessie

© Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved

WHERE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHERE YOU ARE NOW?

               WHERE IS MORE IMPORTANT

                THAN WHERE YOU ARE NOW?
          © Chessie Roberts2010, all rights reserved

When I was a teenager the trend of the day for the girls was to wash and roll your hair in the morning and to keep the rollers in until time for your ‘special event’ of the day. Your ‘event’ could be a date, shopping with your friends or going out to dinner with the family, anything would do for the main happening for the day. My Mother and I would argue horribly over this particular teenage tradition. One day I was reading a newspaper column by Ann Landers where she asked a (what was for me) life changing question.

“Where are you going that is more important than where you are now?”

I was recently reminded of this question when I was talking to a friend of mine. He was lamenting the fact that he had not had a good time at a play that he had attended. I asked what had happened to keep him from enjoying the play and he told me that the lights had been turned down and he could not read the book he wanted to read. I would have thought he would have been watching the play that he had paid to attend rather than reading a book. Who does that I asked myself?

I soon discovered that even on camping trips people are playing video games, texting (and being annoyed by incoming texts), talking on cell phones and being upset by weak signals to their appliances. Even getting to the woods, children must now be entertained with movies rather than paying attention to what is outside the car window. My thought is why go camping if you are going to stay tethered?

As I work with people in the Evolution of Self program, I find that many people are very unhappy because they are trying to be in more places than where they physically are. I can see that there are times when this is required but not every minute of the day. (I also learned that our minds do not actually multi-task, they just do more than one thing poorly.)

Start looking at where you are now, what you are supposed to be doing now and concentrate on that, be in that ‘now’. Don’t worry about where you will need to be in the next hour or day and do your best where you are now. Begin asking yourself, “Where is more important than where I am right now?” Make your ‘now’ as important as your ‘later’ so that you stay focused. Then, when you finish that time frame move on to the next.

Anticipation is a good thing but not to the detriment of you being in your ‘now’. Learn to enjoy the ‘now’ no matter where or what it is and you will find that your days go by better and your enjoyment of life increases.
Bright Blessings, Chessie

THE TWO MOST POWERFUL WORDS

THE TWO MOST POWERFUL WORDS IN THE          LANGUAGE

©Chessie Roberts 2010 all rights reserved

Do you find yourself becoming argumentative and defensive over the slightest thing? Does it seem to you that others are not getting with your program? Could it be that you are attempting to exercise control over something you can’t or should not be controlling?

If these issues are in your life, you need to learn about the two most powerful words in any language, “Let go.” I f you will ask yourself a few questions you will see very quickly how and where to use these wonderful words.

When you are pressing a point ask if the point is truly important. Will it be important in ten minutes? How about one month? A Year? If the subject is so trivial as to be lost in the next ten minutes, why waste time, energy, and frustration on it in the first place? Let it go. If in a months’ time the point is not something worth remembering, then why pursue it? See how that works?

Secondly ask yourself why it is important to you to be the ‘winner’ of this particular argument/difference of opinion? Is the subject of the argument important enough to agree to disagree? If not, it is not important enough to argue about in the first place. Remember that everyone has an opinion and rarely are two just alike and that is ok but to have to be correct all of the time about everything (no matter how trivial) sais that there deeper issues of control that need to occupying you time.

As you learn how to let go of the small things and be OK with that, the larger things will be easier to let go of as well. Letting go will de-clutter your life and make the more important things (those truly important) clearer so that you can take care of them in a positive and balanced way.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

YOUR ACTIONS AND THEIR RIPPLE EFFECT

  YOUR ACTIONS AND THEIR RIPPLE EFFECT

                © Chessie Roberts 2010 all right reserved

This is for everyone but especially for those people you may know who are convinced that they know ever so much more than any adult on the planet. You may pick up a thing or two yourself.

Have you ever thrown a pebble into a still water pond? Did you notice how far the ripples spread? What you may not see is how far they spread and exactly what they move that is floating on the surface, leaves, bugs, grass, anything growing up through the water.

Let’s think about what happens when these ripples that you have chosen to cause hit the shore of the pond. They bounce back and move toward the center of the disturbance. This reversed movement will again move everything on the waters’ surface.

Lets’ think of the ponds surface as your life and the pebble as the action that you choose to take in any given situation. The “stuff” in/on the water is now the people with whom you interact. Ready? Here we go. We will discuss other people’s pebbles at the end of this.

You get angry about something and decide to leave home (you’ll show them!!!). Of course, since you’re angry, you don’t plan well and don’t think it through well. You leave things behind and you don’t (at this time) care where you will go, what you will do when you get there nor how you will support yourself. All of this will come to you on the back-ripple side of things. To make your escape you involve your friends. They mean well but they don’t understand the ripples ether.

Now, your family finds out and gosh, they are upset!! (ah ha, you got their attention). They have to find you, so they also involve every one you know. If that doesn’t work the police get in on things (did you know that there are and will be charges, many charges filed by the police when you do this?) All manner of things fall into place, nationwide alerts go out, street cops looking for you, pictures of you are everywhere, friends (some you will know, some you may not know) and neighbors will be looking for you. Then you have the bad guys who are ALWAYS looking for an easy mark and then, I know you won’t see them coming. As a runaway, cold hungry, no back up, no support (here come those back ripples I spoke of) you are that easy mark.

As if that wasn’t enough, there are others throwing their pebbles into the pond. Those actions have their own ripple patterns, and they will interfere with the ripples of others as well as yours. This can quickly become an oogy mess. Do you have the picture? The point of this whole thing is to show you that everything you choose to do will affect everyone around you to some degree. A lot of those degrees you may not ever be aware of, and some will come back to smack you in the face. The point of this is, pay attention and keep your mind with you at all times. OK?

For the more positive and evolved of you out there, this is also the case with the good actions. Be aware that some of the ripples counteract other ripples (like people praying for different outcomes to the same situation) and some enhance them (that is why many praying for a single outcome works so powerfully). If you know someone that you may be able to help with this please feel free to pass it on.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

CHOICES; YOUR KEYS TO EVERYTHING

                                         CHOICES  

                    YOUR KEYS TO EVERYTHING
                       © 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved

Do you know that you are allowed to choose the life you truly want? You are not bound by the way other people think you should live, think or feel? Of course, there laws and rules of society that we all must follow but I am speaking here of your core truths, values and vibrations. These are yours and, though you may share them with others and mold them to fit the societal constraints around you, you are allowed to choose to feel, think and vibrate with them as you will.

Now you can make choices that are not uplifting or good for you but by the same token you can make the ones that raise your vibrations and take you in directions that will get you where you truly want to go. These are the ones that I am addressing here.

Someone said to me a few weeks ago that they are searching for the keys (choices that will raise their vibrations) to (match) the Universe. I found this quote from Swami Beyondanada that sums up that thought process; “If you are looking for the key to the Universe, I’ve got some good news and some bad news. The bad news is that there is no key; the good news is that it (The Universe) was never locked.”

All we have to do is choose to vibrate in the higher vibrations, the ones born from love. The truth here is that you always attract that which you are a vibrational match too. Therefore, make choices that come from that field of love and watch how your vibrations rise and how easy it becomes to make the “right” choices for you.

Bright Blessings, Chessie

HOW DO I SLOW DOWN TO LET MY FRIENDS CATCH UP?

    HOW DO I SLOW DOWN TO LET MY FRIENDS

                                   CATCH UP?           

One of the responses that I received to my invitation to ask topic questions was “How do I slow down so that my friends and family can catch up with my growth?”

The short answer is that you don’t. Everyone understands and grows at their own rate. I am sure you have heard the saying that “when the student is ready the teacher will appear”. Your friends and loved ones may have their “Ah-ha” moments at different times than you do. That is OK. You must be yourself and they must be themselves. This is one of those things over which you have no control and that is OK as well.

If you attempt to stunt your growth to accommodate someone else’s schedule, you will find quickly that it feels uncomfortable for you. You may find that you are frustrated, angry or there may be some pain involved. All of these fear-based feelings occur because you are denying yourself who and what you are becoming. Learning is why you are on this path in the first place, right?

Now if you choose to keep this (these people) person in your life, focus on what you love about them rather than what you don’t. If you focus on the negatives and differences, you will find that this is where your discomfort starts.

Focusing on what you love about them will allow your vibrations to continue to rise and spontaneously, theirs will too. Now I’m not telling you to grab their hand and haul them up there with you, the love and the Universe will take care of all of that. If you try, you will be right back at the beginning of the question.

See your growth as an opportunity to share your knowledge and opinions with others while allowing them to share their knowledge and opinions with you. Their opinions and knowledge may be different, but you can still learn from them if you choose to allow yourself to listen.

If your friends are uncomfortable around you then that is their issue, not yours. Your issue is your growth. So…give yourself, your friends and loved one’s space and the freedom to just Be. You will see that it all works out just as it is meant to in the end. It is OK to outgrow people and have them out grow you, but by the same process, you will be growing up toward others, that is how we learn and become what we are to become.

Bright Blessings Chessie
© 2010 Chessie Roberts, all rights reserved

Invation to all followers of Evolution of Self; Journey into Body,Mind,Spirit Balance

                               TOPICS PLEASE

Dear Readers (if you will permit me to borrow the phrase), I have been talking to you about all sorts of topics in these blogs. I thought that you may have topics you would like to see covered. Here is your chance to tell me what you want to read about.

Some of you are new to Evolution of Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance so here is a brief overview. This is a program that helps anyone who wishes to participate to regain their balance in these three areas. I created it in an effort to heal myself and found that others wanted to know and understand what I had done.

The program covers

1) Your birthright; the information with you were born and what became of it.

2) Centering which is about pulling yourself together to clear an inner pathway for your energy to travel.

3) Grounding yourself to the Earth that is your energetic source.

4) How to create a calm mindset to help you stay focused and less stressed.

5) The proper way to speak to yourself without judgment or criticism.

6) How to visualize what you truly want.

7-13) How to tap into each internal energy center and make it more efficient for you.

Let me know what you would like to read more about and I will address each topic in order of its demand. You may email me at chessrob05@gmail.com, post a message or go to the discussions tab on Facebook or comment at this blog site. I check all of them regularly. Bright Blessings, Chessie

© C. S. Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

FEAR; IT IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF Part 3, Where is Your Comfort Zone?

   3 FEAR IS NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF Part 3

                        © Chessie Roberts 2010, all rights reserved

Where is Your Comfort Zone?

Our comfort zone is the little box we live in where everything is j-u-s-t the way we like it, we are comfortable. Sounds great right? Well, I guess it can be, but we need to watch out because it can keep us from growing, moving, sharing, or creating. To do that, we must (shaky, scary letters here) STEP OUT OF THE ZONE. That is sometimes a very fear-inducing thing to do.

Where are the boundaries of your comfort zone? Do you feel comfortable talking to strangers? Is it easy for you to eat alone in a restaurant? How do you feel about public speaking? How about going into a social situation unescorted? Would you rather hug someone (not family), shake hands or hide in a hole? Does interstate traffic make you wish you were driving a tank instead of your poor defenseless car? Do places of authority scare the starch right out of you?

I understand, there are things outside everyone’s comfort zone. Things that you would rather chew broken glass than face. things that you fear and that is ok. Here is where we talk about changing that. Don’t panic, you don’t have to make a speech on top of a speeding truck on the interstate, baby steps, baby steps.

What I am advocating is just expanding the zone of what is comfortable for you. As you overcome things that make you fearful, your courage to try something new grows. As that happens, you become more and more powerful and fear less.

Let’s break it down. To be able to begin talking to someone you don’t know very well try just asking the time or complementing something about that person. When this is comfortable you can ask questions that require conversation on the part of the other person. Soon you will be able to speak to anyone.

Eating alone in a restaurant is intimidating to a lot of people so know you are not alone. Start small with a fast-food place. Everyone is in a hurry, and you won’t be noticed. Then move up to some place that caters to your neighborhood. Next, try the larger chains, by then you will be able to go anywhere.

Public speaking is the most feared thing out there and I strongly suggest a public speaking club such as Toastmasters. They will walk you right through it with all the support, encouragement and guidance you can ever want.

Get the picture here? Just take one small step until you feel comfortable and then the next. Every time you reach and stretch, you grow closer to handling your fears in a powerful, productive and positive way.

Until next week, Bright Blessings. Chessie

Why Make A Resolution?

                    Why Make A Resolution?
             © Chessie Roberts 2010, EOS Used by permission


“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” - Tom Krause

A resolution is usually made in the heat of the moment without much thought. It is usually made as a lofty proclamation without expectation of achievement. Because of these circumstances, they are doomed to fail, and…they do; leaving the maker with a sense of failure or a “see, I told you so” mind set.

I used to be one of those people until I decided just never make resolutions again. Guess what? I was able to keep that one. In reality a resolution is just another way to set a goal for yourself. They should be made the same way we set any other goal. We aren’t usually taught how to do that so here are some guide lines.
1) Goals are good to have because they let us see that we are progressing in the direction we feel we want to go.
2) They give us a time frame in which to work so we know when to push or hold back.
3) Set something for yourself that you truly believe you can accomplish. Be kind to you and start gently if you are new at this.
4) Set a realistic time frame, remember; Rome wasn’t built in a day.
5) Review your desired outcome to see just what the baby steps are that will get you the desired outcome.
a) Are they easier to reach?
b) Will the time frame for each step be more acceptable to you?
c) Will your reward for the achievement of each step help you move on to the next one?

Baby step goals are usually the best way to go because you don't get discouraged and quit. If you shoot straight for the whole thing at once, chances are you will either not recognize it when you get there or stop just before success.

You will find that by following these few steps toward creating something truly worthwhile to you, you will start your year out with a sense of accomplishment that will set the tone for a purposeful and prosperous year. Happy 2010 everyone.

Bright Blessings. Chessie