The Season of Love
The holiday time of the year is often referred to as the Season of Love, but
should we not live in that season all of the time? This also begs the question,
“What is love?” that is what we will discuss here.
The love to which I am referring is of the unconditional variety, the kind that
gives without stipulations or judgments. It creates the binding force of love;
a love driven by free, joyous acceptance of yourself and all around you. This
love does NOT come from a place of need, want, or manipulation. This love, when
you move in harmony with it, gives you the ability to let others grow at their
own rate, to reach out to another without losing your center. You begin to feel
that sense of wholeness and balance that you are looking for. You lose the
desire to judge others by YOUR standards, and you are able to see all things as
your “next best thing”. This type of love allows you to consider others as well
as to be gentle with our expectations of ourselves. We find that we can
empathize with the challenges and the joys of others. This love is our link
between our intellectual self and our spiritual self.
Unconditional love is both a way of life as well as a state of being and is a
conscious aware decision. When we choose to engage our will (a 3rd chakra
issue) to direct the love of our 4th chakra to all of those around us, we find
a great sense of inner peace and wellbeing suffuses us and radiates out to all
with whom we come into contact.
We accomplish this true, pure, unconditional love when our ability to take
responsibility for those actions that are truly ours becomes firmly established
within us. When we can stop having the need to live our lives by committee and
can follow our hearts truth without guilt or fear. It is when we can express
love of ourselves and humanity without manipulation or require others to change
in order to become worthy of it. It is when you do not feel the need to be in
control of others, or it is no longer important that truth is subjugated to
YOUR idea of what YOU feel it should be. Only when we are able to give and
receive this unconditional love that is vital to our growth and evolvement, our
actions become based on the premise that all people are deserving of love. We
are at a level where we can forgive others as well as ourselves easily thus
releasing emotional pain as just a part of day-to-day life and not hold it as
something to be nurtured. Holding hurts and grievances benefits no one, least
of all ourselves. Love heals, holding hurt destroys.
Let’s face it, you can’t really know anyone but yourself, so by taking
everything and everyone (especially ourselves) less seriously, you can be
yourself without letting another take your power. You are also able to see the
difference in controlling yourself and NOT controlling others.
Balance means that you can temper your lower chakras pull with love and begin
seeing change in wonderful ways. You know you are in balance when you no longer
feel those pulls from your lower chakras and realize that you do, indeed,
create your own reality and you can influence others.
The goal of unconditional love is to first find an unconditional love for yourself
that will spill over to others, then be able to exercise tolerance and balance
within your body, mind, spirit. And to realize the Devine Paradox that
something that seems small is, in reality very large and the thing that seems
very large is actually very small, and to then embrace the ability to allow
things to just be what they are.
Bright Blessings, Chessie
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